TLDR: I may be over-thinking the etiquette of inviting everyone who gets a STD. A BM was invited with her BF. He was included by name on the STD, but they're breaking up before the wedding. Do I still have to invite him?
Our wedding is in August. One of my bridesmaids (Mary) has dated a guy (John) on and off for a couple of years. Really, really long story, but the relevant part here is that Mary's moving away for two years for work, and they plan to break up when she leaves at the end of May. Neither of them want a long distance relationship.
When I sent out STDs they were more on than off, but just based on their history and the fact that I knew that they had talked about potentially breaking up when she leaves, I asked her if she wanted the STD addressed to "Mary Smith and John Doe" or "Mary Smith and Guest." She asked me to address it to "Mary Smith and John Doe."
They're still technically together I guess, but they've decided together they'll break up when she moves in a couple of weeks. And honestly, knowing their history, I wouldn't be super surprised if between now and the wedding, they got back together and decided to try long-distance.
She has recently told me that she no longer plans to bring him as her date to the wedding, but I'm still planning on giving her a +1. What do I do about him? I'm sure he's seen the STD and knows that he was personally included. We're not close, I've never spent time with John outside of a group setting where Mary was also there. He would never have been invited on his own if he had not been dating Mary. He wouldn't know anyone there except for Mary and a couple of our other friends that are in the bridal party. If he came on his own (not as Mary's date) I wouldn't even know where to seat him - he won't know anyone there that isn't in the BP or a BP date. But I've heard through mutual friends that apparently John has dropped a few random comments here and there implying that he thinks he's still coming to the wedding.
What would you do? I know I'm possibly way over-thinking this. It's just such a weird situation for everyone involved.