I haven't lived in my home state for years. I have many close friends, most whom I'd consider family, coming to our wedding. Average drive time for majority of these friends is 13 hours. When we started planning the wedding, I informed my father that I would like the extra space at his house to be reserved for our friends from far states since they will be staying for 3-5 days. Well, ever since the wedding invitations officially went out, all my freaking family that lives 3-hours away, started TELLING my dad that they're staying at his house for the night. These are the same family members I bitched about on the Etiquette boards because they made several RUDE comments to my dad and grandmother when they received the wedding invitation, about whether we wanted gifts/money "since we sent a formal invite." I don't even want them there after what they said! So, with the exception of my grandmother (who I want to stay at the house), I'm about to start flipping out on all of them for inviting themselves to stay there, not only putting my siblings out of a room, but now putting our close friends and out-of-state guests out of a place to stay. I told my dad when he explained what was happening that he needed to tell everyone NO---including the ones that have already invited themselves. He thinks that's rude and that we'll "figure something out" or "get hotels." Getting hotel rooms for all our out-of-state guests for the week would cost more than getting a hotel for 1 night for the rich asshole relatives.
