FI and I are now just over a month away from our wedding and we're running into some issues with the WP that I have no clue how to deal with.
As far as attire goes, FI and I checked with the budgets of each WP member individually to figure out what people could afford and then chose tuxes/dresses based off lowest numbers.
With a little over a month to go, 50% of FI's groomsmen still have not been fitted for tuxes. Is this normal? FI originally gave them the information and a date in mid-April that they should have been measured by, per the recommendation of the tux shop. One week after the deadline had passed, he sent out a gentle email reminding the guys that if they hadn't been measured, to please do so ASAP. We don't want to nag people, but we also understand that everyone has busy schedules. Now that it's mid-May, FI started sending a text to each guy that hadn't been measured to ask if appointments have been set up.
Do we basically just hope at this point that these guys get it on time? I was hoping this would be a one message deal where he gave them the tux info and a shop and they all just did it. We've been worried that maybe finances have changed for some of them or something so when FI contacted each of the guys individually after the date had passed, he said he understood if things have changed and he offered to help any way he could with the tuxes, finances or otherwise. No one mentioned needing any help.
Finally, we have told everyone in the WP from the very start that if they are seeing someone, their SO will obviously be invited (as with every other guest!) but even if they aren't seeing someone, they are welcome to bring any guest of their choosing as a way of saying thanks for being with us on our wedding day! We've told everyone that their SOs and guests are also of course invited to the RD.
RD numbers are due next week, we've got an escort card meeting next week, and some members of our WP still don't know if they're bringing anyone or who they are bringing.
I don't want people to feel like we're rushing them, but I also feel like they've known about this for months. The RD is being hosted by FI's parents and they need numbers because it's a price per plate kind of deal. If these WP members don't get back to us about whether they're bringing a guest, what do we do? I don't want to be rude to them because of course FI's family wants to host all SO's and guests, but they also don't want to pay for people that might not come!
Finally, if the WP members still don't know who they are bringing by the time we meet with the calligrapher for escort cards, should we just have them write "and guest" on the card? I feel so uncomfortable with that! We want everyone who comes to feel welcome and to be addressed by name.
What should we do about all of this?