I am getting married June 27th. 32 days to go!
We have a limit of 125 people at our venue.
I have a large Greek family and have invited aunts, uncles and cousins, but not my cousins' children. My fiancee has done the same for his side.
I just received the RSVP from my cousins. They have replied yes (all on one RSVP card when there were 3 invites sent separately), and explicitly added their children to the RSVP, along with a relative whose name I don't recognize (possibly my aunt that they call by another name?). This means there are an extra 4-5 people added to the original invitation. The whole thing is strange and presumptuous to me.
I am a bit nervous about calling them to explain the situation, however, I also have pressure from my parents working against me. My mother, in particular, has been pressuring me to invite more and more family members to the wedding, and doesn't seem to understand the cap we have on numbers (not to mention budget). I know that she will find it offensive if I call my cousins to tell them their children are not invited. It will cause drama for sure. In fact, I have my suspicions that she may have spoken to them and told them it was okay to invite their kids.
How do I handle this? Has anyone dealt with something like this before?? Help!