I've been trying to minimize my real-life talking about weddings because we're restricting our guestlist to our families and our very closest, oldest friends. I don't want to set up expectations for less-close people who aren't invited. But then things like this happen.
FI ran to grab take-out for dinner. While he was there, a childhood friend-and-ex-girlfriend of FI's brother came in, flagged him down, and invited herself to our wedding. I wasn't there, but the conversation seems to have gone something like this:
Her: I hear you're getting married! That's so great!
FI: Yep, we're pretty excited.
Her: Awesome, I can't wait to go to your wedding. When is it?
FI: Oh, um. Next May.
Her: Great, I can't wait!
FI: Yeah, great!
He does not particularly want this person there, and when he first told me about this, I was like, "Well, too bad for her. Ooh, tacos." But upon further discussion, the only examples he could give me of his responses sounded like affirmatives. He said they talked for 10 or 15 minutes while both takeout orders were being filled, and that she invited herself 2 or 3 times during the conversation. Did FI tacitly invite her? Do accidental tacit invitations count? Do I get to demand a gift if she gets to demand an invitation?