Anyone find that they totally forgot an aspect of planning leading up to the wedding?

Re: Anyone find that they totally forgot an aspect of planning leading up to the wedding?

• novella1186 member

  

  June 2015

  MnHGirl said:

  I We just hit the less than 6 week mark before our wedding!

  I think I have all of the ducks in a row but was there anything that you overlooked leading up to the wedding and then it was a rush to finish?

  I just want to make sure that I am not overlooking anything!

  -Vendors have been in contact (photographer, reception place, church, DJ)

  - Invites are out and we are slowly getting RSVPs back

  - Centerpieces and flowers (including bouquets and buttoners) have been completed

  - Reception and ceremony decorations are being worked on (including table number holders/ cupcake stands)

  - I have scheduled a hair and make-up trial

  - Bridal party gifts have been ordered and some received

  -Bridal party has purchased their clothes including my Groom

  -Started working on a day of schedule

  - Rehearsal dinner is mostly planned along with the rehearsal

  - Wedding dress is almost complete (my mom and I are making it) and jewelry has been purchased.

  - Guestbook has been done and pens bought

  - My ring is scheduled to go in and get a cleaning and we have our wedding bands

  - Help has been arranged for setting up and taking down

   

  I think I listed everything but I want to make sure I am not missing anything!

  I think any tiny details you may be missing depends on your specific plans and venue. 

  
  

  For example, the thing we forgot was to bring firewood because our venue had an outdoor fireplace thing but we needed to supply the wood. It was out of state and none of us were from the area, but luckily BIL was able to run out and find some somewhere. 

  
  

  Do you have undergarments for your dress? Did you pick out wine/beer brands yet? Bought extra postage for your thank-you cards? Are you doing thank-you gifts for the parents? Do you know when and where to pick up your marriage license? 

  

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• loveislouder member

  

  June 2015

  I did a thread like this right before my wedding. A few things I realized I was missing - our thank you speech. We didn't have one. We also forgot to write our vows.

  
  

  Do you have a DOC? If so, get a list of phone numbers of all your Vendors for them.

  
  

  I didn't have a list of photos I wanted my photographer to get, and I kind of regret it now because I'm missing a couple I would have liked to have (just me and my dad, just H and his sister, etc.)

  
  

  I don't see that you've gotten your marriage license yet. Is that in the works?

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• MnHGirl member

  

  June 2015

  I forgot to list the marriage license but we do have that and even put it in the truck we know we will have the weekend we are getting married! 

  
  

  Making a list is a good idea- our photographer seems pretty open to ideas as long as they are within the scheduled time pre wedding ceremony. 

  
  

  The food and alcohol list has been picked out and we have to turn in the numbers 2 weeks prior to the wedding. 

  
  

  I have undergarments for my dress and we did pick up extra postage.

  
  

  For the gifts we did purchase gifts for our parents and I also am putting together a little gift bag for the kids coming to the wedding (okd with venue, juice box, animal crackers, mini coloring book/crayons, stuffed toy).

  
  

  We are just doing general vows since my FI does not do well with talking in front of people and just wanted to keep it easy We do need to make a thank-you speech though!

  
  

  Thanks eveyone for the help!!!  

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• luckya23 member

  

  June 2015

  I would not leave a marriage license in a truck for 6 weeks.

  
  

  
  

  

  

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• wandajune6 member

  

  June 2015

  We wrote a schedule but forgot to give it to anyone but the photographer. That was a bit of a mess. Other than that, there was nothing significant.
  

  

  

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• madamerwin member

  

  June 2015

  luckya23 said:

  I would not leave a marriage license in a truck for 6 weeks.

  
  

  
  

  This. Don't know where you are, but our marriage license has our full names, address, and social security numbers on it. I suggest moving it inside until you can give it to your officiant. Ours is locked in the filing cabinet until my dad (officiant) gets here next Wednesday. Then it will be in his possession until the ceremony, since I know he will keep it safe (and not forget to bring it!).

  
  

  I highly recommend lists. We have a master list of to-do's on our fridge, with every single thing we still need to do in the next 11 days (!!). I look at it every morning and every night, and I try to cross at least one thing off each day. We also add things to it when we realize we forgot something. It's very satisfying to watch the list get smaller and smaller.

  
  

  Have you thought about food for you, FI and the bridal party before the wedding? If you're getting ready with your BMs, I would recommend having lunch planned. I have heard many stories of brides forgetting to eat and getting hangry right before the wedding.

  

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• loveislouder member

  

  June 2015

  tfmrserwin said:

  luckya23 said:

  I would not leave a marriage license in a truck for 6 weeks.

  
  

  
  

  This. Don't know where you are, but our marriage license has our full names, address, and social security numbers on it. I suggest moving it inside until you can give it to your officiant. Ours is locked in the filing cabinet until my dad (officiant) gets here next Wednesday. Then it will be in his possession until the ceremony, since I know he will keep it safe (and not forget to bring it!).

  
  

  I highly recommend lists. We have a master list of to-do's on our fridge, with every single thing we still need to do in the next 11 days (!!). I look at it every morning and every night, and I try to cross at least one thing off each day. We also add things to it when we realize we forgot something. It's very satisfying to watch the list get smaller and smaller.

  
  

  Have you thought about food for you, FI and the bridal party before the wedding? If you're getting ready with your BMs, I would recommend having lunch planned. I have heard many stories of brides forgetting to eat and getting hangry right before the wedding.

  This. All us girls got ready together, and i had a spread for them - water, juice, rum, fruit tray, muffins, bagels, a cheese ball with crackers and then I packed granola bars and water bottles to run around with all day.  

  
  

  H forgot to get his men food so I ordered a couple pizzas and had them delivered to where the guys were.

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• novella1186 member

  

  June 2015 edited June 2015

  loveislouder said:

  tfmrserwin said:

  luckya23 said:

  I would not leave a marriage license in a truck for 6 weeks.

  
  

  
  

  This. Don't know where you are, but our marriage license has our full names, address, and social security numbers on it. I suggest moving it inside until you can give it to your officiant. Ours is locked in the filing cabinet until my dad (officiant) gets here next Wednesday. Then it will be in his possession until the ceremony, since I know he will keep it safe (and not forget to bring it!).

  
  

  I highly recommend lists. We have a master list of to-do's on our fridge, with every single thing we still need to do in the next 11 days (!!). I look at it every morning and every night, and I try to cross at least one thing off each day. We also add things to it when we realize we forgot something. It's very satisfying to watch the list get smaller and smaller.

  
  

  Have you thought about food for you, FI and the bridal party before the wedding? If you're getting ready with your BMs, I would recommend having lunch planned. I have heard many stories of brides forgetting to eat and getting hangry right before the wedding.

  This. All us girls got ready together, and i had a spread for them - water, juice, rum, fruit tray, muffins, bagels, a cheese ball with crackers and then I packed granola bars and water bottles to run around with all day.  

  
  

  H forgot to get his men food so I ordered a couple pizzas and had them delivered to where the guys were.

  I ordered big party trays from Jimmy John's with a variety of stuff, and then we bought bags of chips, bottled water, Coke, Sprite, etc for us and the WP for lunch. It worked out well and everyone ate, so no one passed out during the ceremony :P 

  

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• beachyone15 member

  

  June 2015

  Agreed with PPs about the food. My MOH refused to eat all morning and ended up having to leave in the middle of the ceremony to sit down because she was about to pass out! I didn't even realize what happened until some guests started asking me about her right after the ceremony. It's hard to make yourself eat and stay hydrated when there's so much adrenaline and excitement, but it's important!
  

  
  
  
  
  
  
  

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• wandajune6 member

  

  June 2015

  Excellent call on the food. Most of our wedding party was couples with kids so not everyone got ready together. I had lots of food for those who got ready with me. For the folks who didn't, there were a few hangry folks.
  
  DH kept insisting that he didn't need to get food for the guys but I had Jimmy John's (his favorite) delivered, just in case. From what I saw, it was devoured.
  

  

  

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• novella1186 member

  

  June 2015

  Oh yeah, and re: where to put the marriage license. 

  
  

  I put everything in the shoe box that my wedding shoes were in, because there are so many little things to remember. Weeks before the wedding, I made sure my shoes, jewelry, perfume, a copy of my vows, and marriage license were all in the shoe box. Then I made a list of everything I needed to bring with me, and I also stuck a neon pink post-it on the inside of the front door a few days before we left that said "shoe box!" I even taped my veil to the box. 

  
  

  It was way easier to just keep track of that one box than all those things individually. Our wedding was out of state so we had to pack EVERYTHING we might need, and we weren't gonna have a chance to drive all the way back to our house if we forgot something. 

  

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• madamerwin member

  

  June 2015

  @Novella1186 - that's a brilliant idea. I am totally going to put my jewelry, undergarments, our wedding bands, and marriage license in with my shoes. Because I really don't think I will forget my shoes. But I will also take your advice with the post-it note on the door, because I am really nervous about forgetting something.

  

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• novella1186 member

  

  June 2015

  tfmrserwin said:

  @Novella1186 - that's a brilliant idea. I am totally going to put my jewelry, undergarments, our wedding bands, and marriage license in with my shoes. Because I really don't think I will forget my shoes. But I will also take your advice with the post-it note on the door, because I am really nervous about forgetting something.

  Yeah I was really nervous about forgetting stuff too because, like I said, we wouldn't be able to go back for it. So I just kept consolidating and list-making. 

  
  

  The ONE thing I forgot was the underwear  I bought specifically to wear with my dress. I brought it to the rental house with us, but then I forgot to bring it to the wedding venue. So it's a really good idea to put that with your shoes too! Although in the grand scheme of things I was glad I just forgot the underwear and not something more important, like the rings. 

  

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• swiftsticks member

  

  June 2015

  loveislouder said:

  tfmrserwin said:

  luckya23 said:

  I would not leave a marriage license in a truck for 6 weeks.

  
  

  
  

  This. Don't know where you are, but our marriage license has our full names, address, and social security numbers on it. I suggest moving it inside until you can give it to your officiant. Ours is locked in the filing cabinet until my dad (officiant) gets here next Wednesday. Then it will be in his possession until the ceremony, since I know he will keep it safe (and not forget to bring it!).

  
  

  I highly recommend lists. We have a master list of to-do's on our fridge, with every single thing we still need to do in the next 11 days (!!). I look at it every morning and every night, and I try to cross at least one thing off each day. We also add things to it when we realize we forgot something. It's very satisfying to watch the list get smaller and smaller.

  
  

  Have you thought about food for you, FI and the bridal party before the wedding? If you're getting ready with your BMs, I would recommend having lunch planned. I have heard many stories of brides forgetting to eat and getting hangry right before the wedding.

  This. All us girls got ready together, and i had a spread for them - water, juice, rum, fruit tray, muffins, bagels, a cheese ball with crackers and then I packed granola bars and water bottles to run around with all day.  

  
  

  H forgot to get his men food so I ordered a couple pizzas and had them delivered to where the guys were.

  I have a feeling that the guys are going to forget ordering lunch. Getting FI's friends organized can be like herding cats. 

  
  

  Example/Vent: It's 11 days to go and one GM still needs to buy a suit. 

  
  

  GM has known for 7 months that he needs to buy a suit. FI has asked him several times to go shopping. GM's wife told me (voluntarily, I didn't pry) that they have the budget for it. GM wants to purchase his suit tomorrow. The suit the other GM are wearing is from last summer and is discontinued. And they want me to go shopping with them. Like I have nothing better to do.
  

  
  

  FI agrees that his friends are not in the wedding party if they don't have the requested attire. It's not really my problem (it's the GM's problem) but it's driving me nuts.

  
  

  OP: Have you tried wunderlist? It's an smartphone app that works across platforms and allows several users to collaborate on lists. FI and I use it for grocery shopping. We found it works well for wedding planning too.

  

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• princessbuttercup09 member

  

  June 2015

  If you are into making list I would suggest making a list for your photographer. It makes life a lot simpler when they can just call out- bride's whole family, bride and grandparents, bride and immediate family, bride and parents, and so on. It makes the 'formal family portraits' go much faster so your guests can move on to having an awesome time at your reception!  

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• luckya23 member

  

  June 2015

  princessbuttercup09 said:

  If you are into making list I would suggest making a list for your photographer. It makes life a lot simpler when they can just call out- bride's whole family, bride and grandparents, bride and immediate family, bride and parents, and so on. It makes the 'formal family portraits' go much faster so your guests can move on to having an awesome time at your reception!  

  I just had to do this list today, but my photographer requested to call them by their first names.
  

  

  

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• MnHGirl member

  

  June 2015

  Thanks every one and I was not even thinking when I put the marriage license in the truck about the info on it! The shoe box idea is a great idea! 

  
  

  We will have sandwiches, water, and a snack dropped off at the church the night before (will be delivered slightly prior to rehearsal)  and put in the kitchen for the WP, Photographer, and everyone helping that morning. 

  
  

  If the weather cooperates we are having pictures off sight prior to the wedding and my dad is going to bring a cooler with water and ice for anyone that needs it.

  
  

  I am still having trouble with my brother and his suit (he is a GM). We found a suit place that sells the suits and you get a dress shirt and tie for $129.99 (not top of the line but they look nice and then they can keep the suit). I have asked that they wear a black shoe and I will be providing a vest for each. The WP ok with it since they didn't own a black suit yet- except for my younger brother. He wants to wear his now ill fitting black suit from his JR year in prom (7 years ago and it does not match the suits). I asked him if it was a financial concern and he said "no, I just don't wear suits much and didn't see the point in buying one when I already have a black suit". It just irks me because he has had no other issues renting tuxes for other weddings he has been in! I guess all that matters is that he shows up in a black suit for pictures and the ceremony!     

  
  

  I Have not tried wunderlist, but will look into it! 

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