I do not want a registry is it ok to ask for gift cards?

Starlight58 · June 2015

My FI and I lived together for a while we do not need a registry full of house stuff. im having a DW wedding is it ok or proper to say no gifts but gift cards or monetary gifts are appreciated.

TrixieJess · June 2015

Starlight58 said:

My FI and I lived together for a while we do not need a registry full of house stuff. im having a DW wedding is it ok or proper to say no gifts but gift cards or monetary gifts are appreciated.

Nope, it's like asking for cash, it's rude. Just don't have a registry or have a small one.

It's not proper to say anything about gifts on an invitation, but if someone asks, you can tell them that you are saving for ... There should be no expectation of gifts.

mikenberger · June 2015

Starlight58 said:

My FI and I lived together for a while we do not need a registry full of house stuff. im having a DW wedding is it ok or proper to say no gifts but gift cards or monetary gifts are appreciated.

No. It's not. Just don't register. People will get the hint. It is never okay to ask for gifts. At any time. Weddings, birthdays, Christmas... Gifts are gifts - not something to be expected because it's an occasion.

Starlight58 · June 2015

I don't expect gifts at all but the last thing i want is someone to show up with a blender. :0/.yea i didnt think it was proper to say but was just checking for ideas. thanks ladies :0)

mikenberger · June 2015

Starlight58 said:

I don't expect gifts at all but the last thing i want is someone to show up with a blender. :0/.yea i didnt think it was proper to say but was just checking for ideas. thanks ladies :0)

If they come with a blender, they were going to get you a blender no matter what. Some people are just boxed gift givers. My wedding, we had 6 items left on our registry at the wedding date. Yeah, we ended up with like 20 boxed gifts. Mostly stuff off the registry. It was annoying, but those people were obviously going to give something regardless of anything I told them or implied.

Having a DW should help though. "What's easier for the couple to transport?... A blender or a check?"

thisismynickname2 · June 2015

mikenberger said:

Starlight58 said:

I don't expect gifts at all but the last thing i want is someone to show up with a blender. :0/.yea i didnt think it was proper to say but was just checking for ideas. thanks ladies :0)

If they come with a blender, they were going to get you a blender no matter what. Some people are just boxed gift givers. My wedding, we had 6 items left on our registry at the wedding date. Yeah, we ended up with like 20 boxed gifts. Mostly stuff off the registry. It was annoying, but those people were obviously going to give something regardless of anything I told them or implied.

Having a DW should help though. "What's easier for the couple to transport?... A blender or a check?"

I would be blown away if anyone showed up to a DW with a boxed gift like a blender. More likely, if they're going to get you a blender, they'll ship it to you ahead of time.

I always think of Father of the Bride from 1992; they never showed Annie having a bridal shower but "lovely silver tea sets" were shipped by the crate to her house!

Just don't register, and what gifts may come, well yay.

mikenberger · June 2015

thisismynickname said:

mikenberger said:

Starlight58 said:

I don't expect gifts at all but the last thing i want is someone to show up with a blender. :0/.yea i didnt think it was proper to say but was just checking for ideas. thanks ladies :0)

If they come with a blender, they were going to get you a blender no matter what. Some people are just boxed gift givers. My wedding, we had 6 items left on our registry at the wedding date. Yeah, we ended up with like 20 boxed gifts. Mostly stuff off the registry. It was annoying, but those people were obviously going to give something regardless of anything I told them or implied.

Having a DW should help though. "What's easier for the couple to transport?... A blender or a check?"

I would be blown away if anyone showed up to a DW with a boxed gift like a blender. More likely, if they're going to get you a blender, they'll ship it to you ahead of time.
I always think of Father of the Bride from 1992; they never showed Annie having a bridal shower but "lovely silver tea sets" were shipped by the crate to her house!

Just don't register, and what gifts may come, well yay.

lol what I'm saying is, under normal circumstances, if someone gives you a boxed gift even if you don't have a registry, they were going to give you a boxed gift regardless. But, as in my last sentence, having a DW should help cut down on the boxes.

Jen4948 · June 2015

It's okay not to register for gifts, but it's not appropriate to ask for gift cards or cash.

[Deleted User] · June 2015

And if you do get that blender, you should still send a gracious thank you card.

Viczaesar · June 2015

adk19 said:

And if you do get that blender, you should still send a gracious thank you card.

Also, blenders are handy. Especially for margaritas.

ShesSoCold · June 2015

If you already have everything you need, what will you buy with gift cards?

[Deleted User] · June 2015

ShesSoCold said:

If you already have everything you need, what will you buy with gift cards?

Gas, groceries, shoes. You know, the necessities.

Starlight58 · June 2015

Ha! Love the answers and the pictures.. Thank you solo much

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