My fiance and I have chosen to have an intimate family only wedding with 50 guests. This decision was made mainly because if we opened up the guest list to friends and extended family (over 150 people), we would be over our budget and ww dont wamt to go into debt for a wedding (we are paying for everything ourselves).
My mom isn't happy with our decision because we've also chosen to have a traditional ceremony and a reception with just dinner and cutting of the cake, but no DJ just background music on an ipod. Oh, and no first dance.
So my mom wants to throw either an engagement party or a coed shower for us and invite family AND friends who won't be invited to the wedding. I think this could be breaking some etiquette rules. Thoughts?