This might be a question for the Destination Wedding board, please move if it is in the wrong spot.
My fiance and I are still playing around with ideas, so all of this is hypothetical. I just want to know what proper etiquette would be before I plan something stupid.
We know we want to get married in the mountains, probably near Asheville. We know we have at least 65 family members coming from out of town. We have contacted many venues that are full service, some with lodging some without. There are hundreds of cabin rental companies, some that do group rentals, have catering companies, do corporate retreats/ wedding regularly. I was thinking that if we could get a group of cabins near eachother we could have the wedding at one of these rentals, on the lawn or deck. But I would think it would be at one of the larger locations, some have like 6 bedrooms, so it would probably be one of the places shared by family. We would rent a smaller place, just for the two of us. If we were able to get group rates or a block of cabins (not quite sure how they do groups yet) who should pay for that particular cabin?
Should we pay for the whole weekend? Just that one day? Would some people be offended that we payed for some people housing and not theirs? I think we should pay for at least one night, like an inconvenience discount, but dont want people to be upset.
I am sure I am not explaining this very well. Please let me know if you have questions or if I can clarify something. Here is what I was looking at.
http://www.carolinamornings.com/large-group-rentals.aspTl;dr: Should guests pay for their lodging if wedding takes place on their vacation rental property?
Re: How much should we pay for?
If I was told I needed to stay in a certain accommodation and possibly have to share that accomodation with either family or random guests I wouldn't expect to have to pay for it, maybe that's just me though. I like options
Good points. We will certainly keep them in mind if we decide to go this route.
To keep things easy I would find a venue where that has lodging available or where there are plenty of lodging optiond near by and let them do all the work of preparing the food, decorations & clean up, parking, etc. This way your reception will end at a specific time not when everyone feels like going back. No hurt feelings on who had to pay for lodging or not. And no one gets stuck with clean up duty either. Another key thing is, that everyone gets privacy for getting ready or going to bed. If you have your heart set on a big cabin wedding, stay some where else & put the room aside for the bridal party to meet at & get ready in the morning of the wedding.