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Midwest2Texas · June 2015

My Fiance and I live in Texas, but I am from Ohio. We are having a very small wedding (20-40 people) here in TX because his mom and sister are handicap and cannot travel far. We are then going to plan on having a small "open house" style reception in Ohio for all of the family and friends who can't travel to Texas. When is the appropriate time to send out the invites for the Ohio reception? Do I send them at the same time as the regular invites?

CMGragain · June 2015

Knottie1434983798 said:

My Fiance and I live in Texas, but I am from Ohio. We are having a very small wedding (20-40 people) here in TX because his mom and sister are handicap and cannot travel far. We are then going to plan on having a small "open house" style reception in Ohio for all of the family and friends who can't travel to Texas. When is the appropriate time to send out the invites for the Ohio reception? Do I send them at the same time as the regular invites?

No. You cannot have two wedding receptions. Your wedding reception is for your guests on your wedding day.
You can have a party to celebrate your marriage at any time afterwards, but it is not a part of your wedding, so you should not enclose invitations with your wedding invitations. They must be mailed separately. Please remember that this is not your wedding reception, but a celebration party. Your plans sound good.

southernbelle0915 · June 2015

As long as you don't call it a reception, your plans sound fine. A "reception" is literally where the couple receives their guests immediately following the ceremony. If it's an event in Ohio some time later and these people didn't attend the ceremony, it's not a reception.

You could say:

Wife's Name

and

Husband's Name

invite you to celebrate their recent marriage

Saturday, the first of August

at five o'clock

Venue Name

State, City

Jen4948 · June 2015

Knottie1434983798 said:

My Fiance and I live in Texas, but I am from Ohio. We are having a very small wedding (20-40 people) here in TX because his mom and sister are handicap and cannot travel far. We are then going to plan on having a small "open house" style reception in Ohio for all of the family and friends who can't travel to Texas. When is the appropriate time to send out the invites for the Ohio reception? Do I send them at the same time as the regular invites?

The Ohio party isn't your "reception." That boat will have sailed.

It's a "celebration" of your marriage instead. I'd send separate invitations to the Ohio event six to eight weeks in advance, just like with your wedding invitations.

[Deleted User] · June 2015

Jen4948 said:

Knottie1434983798 said:

My Fiance and I live in Texas, but I am from Ohio. We are having a very small wedding (20-40 people) here in TX because his mom and sister are handicap and cannot travel far. We are then going to plan on having a small "open house" style reception in Ohio for all of the family and friends who can't travel to Texas. When is the appropriate time to send out the invites for the Ohio reception? Do I send them at the same time as the regular invites?

The Ohio party isn't your "reception." That boat will have sailed.
It's a "celebration" of your marriage instead. I'd send separate invitations to the Ohio event six to eight weeks in advance, just like with your wedding invitations.

I disagree with the timeline. It's just a party. I don't need as much notice for a party as I do for a wedding. Four weeks prior to the event is fine.

Though, personally, I think you should invite Everyone to your actual Wedding. Let them decide if they can or cannot travel for it. You may be surprised. I'd travel to Texas for your wedding, but I might not go to a local party celebrating your recent marriage because it's just not that big a deal.

lembaslover · June 2015

I agree with @adk19. I will totally fly across the country to see someone I care about get married. If it's just a party celebrating their marriage in town maybe I'll go, depends on if something better comes up. Honestly I'd be hurt that I wasn't invited to the actual wedding and this is supposed to be like a consolation prize. So if I did stop by I'd say congrats and then go do whatever else I had planned for that day.

AddieCake · June 2015

I hate reception tours. You should not have to travel around having multiple parties trying to accommodate everyone or thinking everyone wants to be included.

Maggie0829 · July 2015

Just invite everyone to your wedding. If they can make it great. If not, oh well. We had a few people that couldn't make it to our wedding but we didn't feel it necessary to throw another party later just so that they could come and celebrate our marriage with us.

I will never understand these wedding reception tours. Yes it is a big day in your life but not everyone will be crying in their pillow at night if they can't make it. They will get over it if they never attend a party to celebrate the fact that you got married.

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