My dad is paying for the venue and catering for my wedding in April. He hasn't exactly given us a dollar amount for what he's willing to pay, but the budget isn't limitless. My FI has an ENORMOUS close-knit family, so I know the catering bill is going to be high.
The problem is, he also has lots of friends, and many of those friends have either invited him to their weddings or asked him to be a groomsman, so he thinks they would be offended if we didn't invite them.
Okay, he may have a point. I don't know. But he REFUSES to compromise on the rest of the guest list and keeps saying, "We need to invite this person, too." My dad is being very, very generous and has agreed to about 100 people, but the guest list, today, is at 120.
I don't want to have to cut my guest list any more than I already have, because it's only about a third of the total. But he will not compromise, and all we're doing is fighting about it. All I wanted was family and close friends, and he just keeps saying, "These are my close friends."
How do I get him to divorce himself from some of the people on his list?
"And when they use our atoms to make new lives, they won’t just be able to take one, they’ll have to take two, one of you and one of me..."
--Philip Pullman