I received this text from my stepmom this morning:
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Hi girl. . I was wondering about your wedding. My sister mom and niece are visiting in Oct. Any chance they can attend your wedding? They would really enjoy dressing up and meeting you."
I hear about people doing this sort of thing all the time, but I still didn't see this coming. We're having a private ceremony and an invite only reception after - no kids (a whole other stress for me). I've never met them before. I realize they're my stepmom's family, I get that. And she doesn't get to see them very often, I get that, too. But now I've been put in a completely awkward position. We have a guest limit and a budget, and a comfort level we'd like to maintain, and I feel like meeting new people at my own wedding is NOT what I want to do. My own mom isn't inviting any extended family at all, so if I let my stepmom do it, then I would feel like I need to let my mom do it as well, and that would mean even more people that I don't know very well on a day when I'd prefer to know everyone there. My stepmom is very "family inclusive", almost to a fault. I don't think she realizes what she's asking, or the discomfort her request brings to me. Help!