I hate my wedding dress...

Knottie25383693 · July 2015

I bought my wedding dress in December, on no sleep and with an injured eye, I now hate my dress and the wedding shop I bought the dress from has an absolute no return policy. What can I do? I can't afford a new dress, and I'm having nightmares about the dress I have. And my wedding is in October...please,somebody help!!

Maggie0829 · July 2015

What do you hate about the dress? What would you rather have in a dress? Have you tried the dress on since you bought it?

If you really hate your dress then I suggest you try and sell it and buy another one. Cut back on other aspects of your wedding (get rid of favors, pick less expensive invites, cut back on flowers, etc) to create a budget for a new dress.

Preownedweddingdresses.com is a great site to buy lightly used gowns. Also look at off the rack options at salons.

There are many amazing posters on here that can find you some great options. So tell us what you are looking for (pictures would help) and give us a realistic budget for a new gown and we will try to help you as much as possible.

Knottie25383693 · July 2015

I hate the way I look in it, I keep looking at the pictures of me in it when we bought it and I don't know what I was thinking. This dress was safe, it's very simple, no wow, except for the buttons on the back, which I think was why I got it in the first place. I haven't tried it on since I bought it, but the pictures I've seen, I look horrible, and uncomfortable. I keep kicking myself. We are already cutting back on everything, money is tight for us. If I could sell it for around the price I got it for, it would be amazing and I could afford another one, but I don't think that will happen, and I have no idea how to sell it. Without selling it, if I could find a new dress for $300-500$,I might consider buying a new one. I don't know what exactly I'm looking for, and I'm not exactly a small bride, so sizing might be an issue. I saw this beautiful Simone Carvalli in a Brides magazine, but unless I win the lottery, it would never happen, haha. My dress is a Justin Alexander, and it's a beautiful dress, just not on me.

justsie · July 2015

You need to go put back on that dress first. Pictures will look differently depending on lighting, camera quality, etc etc etc. Plus the pictures of you are probably in the sample gown, which I doubt was a perfect fit. Go try on the dress, put on your veil (if you have one) and if you still don't love it it looks like you already have a plan.

kvruns · July 2015

do you not like that it is simple or do you not like how you look in it? those are two different things to me and you can jazz up a simple dress with a belt, or even your jewelry, headpiece, etc. You need to try it on again and have an honest friend help you out with the decision. Looking at pictures doesn't really do the same as wearing it.

I think you also have to be honest with yourself on whether or not you will like any dress you buy. Hopefully that doesn't sound bad, but some people are going to be critical of themselves in anything and everything they wear (my best friend is like this even when she looks great), so would buying a new dress really solve the problem?

redheadbride15 · July 2015

"Hate" is an awfully strong word. I agree with what the PPs have posted. You should go back to the store, try it on, bring one or two really trusted friends, try it on with some fun accessories to make it less "simple". Don't go by what you look like in a photo, especially one that was taken "on no sleep with an injured eye"!

Also, if you want an honest and unbiased opinion then post a photo of you in your dress here and we Knotties will tell you whether or not your fears are justified, and could maybe give some tips on how to accessorize it to make you feel fabulous!

And remember that the dress is only one very, very small part of your wedding. Personally, I think our media-and-style crazed society puts way too much emphasis on the importance of the wedding dress. I don't think it's worth breaking the bank over. You could wear a potato sack and at the end of the day, you will still be married.

Knottie25383693 · July 2015

I have a custom made belt that I got with the dress, I honestly hate the way I look in it, I don't think it's because I'm hard on myself, I know I am, I found a dress before this one that I absolutely loved, I should have just bought that one, but nobody was with me, so I didn't.
I know that it's not the most important thing, and My fiancé will love it, but the dress is super important to me. I'm just frustrated with myself, and the dress is in PA and I'm in TX, so I can't try it on right now, unfortunately. And I don't know if I'm brave enough to post the pictures, I really look terrible. Thanks for all your input ladies, I might just have to stick with the dress in the long run.

Maggie0829 · July 2015

Knottie25383693 said:

I have a custom made belt that I got with the dress, I honestly hate the way I look in it, I don't think it's because I'm hard on myself, I know I am, I found a dress before this one that I absolutely loved, I should have just bought that one, but nobody was with me, so I didn't. I know that it's not the most important thing, and My fiancé will love it, but the dress is super important to me. I'm just frustrated with myself, and the dress is in PA and I'm in TX, so I can't try it on right now, unfortunately. And I don't know if I'm brave enough to post the pictures, I really look terrible. Thanks for all your input ladies, I might just have to stick with the dress in the long run.

I don't believe that you look as bad as you think. I think you hating the dress is making you think that you look worse then you do.

Just take a deep breath. What did the dress that you loved look like?

Knottie25383693 · July 2015

http://www.maggiesottero.com/dress.aspx?style=3MS745&page=0&pageSize=36&attrib30=273&keywordText=

That's the dress that I tried on and loved.

This is the dress that I bought:

justin alexander 8635

redheadbride15 · July 2015

What's the custom belt like?

Also, it would be worthwhile calling some of your local bridal stores to see if any of them have that Justin Alexander dress in stock - so you can try it on without having to go back to the store you bought it from. Try this: http://www.justinalexanderbridal.com/store_locator.php

The major difference between those two dresses you show is that the Maggie Sottero has a lot of bling on it, but the Justin Alexander doesn't. Can you accessorize to bring some of that bling/pizzazz you like so much?

Personally, I love the Justin Alexander. It's classic/timeless, and the buttons on the back are gorgeous! But I'm also not a "bling" girl - just personal preference.

amiemaria · July 2015

Oh, I think that Justin Alexander dress is beautiful. So timeless and elegant. Is there another shop nearby that you could try it on in? I'm sure they stock it in a lot of places. When you have that visual of you hating the dress in your head it can be tough to get around it but if you go try it on again then you can act on it either way.

Maggie0829 · July 2015

Both dresses are very pretty. They are very similar in shape (ballgown with sweetheart neckline), but they are completely different styles and have a completely different feel to them.

Four of the Esme dresses are for sale on here...CLICK. But they are slightly above your new budget.

MandyMost · July 2015

They're both strapless, sweetheart neckline ball gowns--I would not waste the money to get a new dress. With a blinged out belt and some great jewelry you can definitely take your dress up a notch on the glamour factor. What about a veil, too? Can you add a petticoat to make it a little poufier, if you want that?

I can't imagine that your body actually would look different at all between the two dresses, at least not in a way that some shapewear and a good tailor couldn't easily address (i.e. maybe one dress comes up a little higher or lower on the bust, but a tailor should be able to look into that).

[Deleted User] · July 2015

The dress you own is beautiful- I think you can blind it out a bit more and you might be happy.

Good luck with whatever decision you make.

Knottie1623593 · July 2015

I am not sure exactly where you are in Texas but I got my dress at Second Summer Bride in Austin, they sell samples, designer mis-orders & pre-owned dresses for a reasonable price. My dress happened to be a designer mis-order and came from there sister store in downtown so I got a couture dress for literally 1/3 of the original price and it just so happened to have never been worn or even tried on before me, also it still had all of the tags and bags from the designer.

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