Shower Thank You- Who to Address it to and Send it from?

OfftheMap27 · July 2015

Hi all,

Not sure if this has been discussed before, I poke around a bit and couldn't find anything. Some early shower gifts have arrived for me, and I am a bit confused on how to send thank yous. So far the gifts have been addressed specifically to me, not us as a couple, and have been specifically signed, by the woman of the couple.

That being said, how do I address thank you cards?

Thank You Mrs. Smith,

Love Mary

Thank you Mr & Mrs. Smith

Love Mary

Thank you Mrs. Smith

Love Mary & Tim

or Thank you Mr. & Mrs Smith

Love Mary & Tim

My instincts make me think to thank the sender and send it from myself, but mention Tim like:

Dear Mrs. Smith,

Thank you so much for the gift, Tim and I can't wait to use it.

Love, Mary

So many options! I know all the etiquette otherwise, of mentioning the gift, being thoughtful, sending them promptly etc, but in terms of bridal shower gifts, I'm just a bit lost on how to address them!

ILoveBeachMusic · July 2015

If they are specifically shower gifts with cards signed by only the woman and addressed only to you, I would address the thank you to Mrs. Smith and sign it Love, Mary. Of course, you can mention that you and Tim can't wait to use the gift.

aliwis000 · July 2015

This is a great question!

I was also wondering about how to address people. Shower gifts I would probably go with just the person who attended the shower (usually the woman in my case).

But for gifts coming from people I know will not be at the shower, or that are obviously for the wedding how are those addressed if only half the couple is listed?

I know I have sent things on behalf of myself and FI and sometimes forget to put his name in the little area for "gift message". This happens when I do online shopping not so much as a physical card. However, 99% of wedding gifts I give come off a couples registry online and are shipped. It is just so much easier than buying it, wrapping it, and bringing it to the wedding.

So sometimes I might just forget to type in a message, which would be the only way for them to know FI was a part of this as I am technically paying for it with my account/card.

Thinking about it now I am not sure how the thank you cards I received from the times I forgot FI name were addressed so I guess it did not hit me too hard either way. lol

southernbelle0915 · July 2015

I would thank whoever signed it.

So "Dear Aunt Milly" if the card says "Love, Aunt Milly". Or "Dear Aunt Milly and Uncle Joe" if the card says "Love, Aunt Milly and Uncle Joe". KWIM?

As far as signing it, I wrote the cards and signed both our names. DH is thankful for the towels and sheets we received. He's thankful for the food processor and wine glasses. He's thankful for our plates and silverware. We both use all the stuff we received and we're both thankful for it.

marie2785 · July 2015

I sent the cards to whomever signed the card given to me. Sometimes it was Aunt Jane. Sometimes it was Aunt Jane, Uncle Joe, sometimes it was Aunt Jane and cousin Milly (cousin being a baby in these cases).

I signed them from just me, since all of the cards were just addressed to me. And I did mention FI in many of the cards (we both love the towels so much, etc).

FI will sign the wedding cards though.

banana468 · July 2015

I always addressed the note to the person(S) who signed it.

SP29 · July 2015

I agree, address the Thank You to whomever signed the card.

In the case of a shower gift, I would sign it yourself, but include your husband's name in the note.

For a wedding gift, I would sign from both. (Technically the person writing the thank you note is the only one who signs it, but it has turned into a victimless crime and commonality that one person signs a TY note on behalf of all who the gift was for).

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