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TTC mini muffins is hard

Hey, ladies.  Getting on the knot has been really frustrating, lately, because it never allows me to log in. I have given up on it, for a bit.  Today, i thought I would keep everyone posted on the TTC scene.  Yesterday, I saw the ladybits doctor, and had a second sonogram.  My doctor put me on Clomid, about a month ago, because I had insufficient progesterone levels.  After a first sonogram, it revealed that the Clomid was working, and I was producing many eggs to maturation.  Yesterday, my second sonogram revealed I had 4 factors why I am not able to conceive, at this time.  I have uterine adenosis, which is when my uterine lining grows into the muscles of the uterine wall.  I have a thin uterine lining which would make it almost impossible to conceive, so they have to take me off the Clomid (which bums me out). I also have a large cyst on my uterus, and a uterine fibroid inside of my uterus.  
   My doctor has told me to stop TTC, and they are scheduling a D+C.  They like to call it dusting and cleaning, I like to call it a scrape and a tickle. The last time I had one of these, they punctured my uterine wall, and I had a severe infection. This time, I will be able to be put under, because my insurance will cover it.  I don't know if I will be able to get pregnant after the D+C, because I still have those two other factors.  I'm just kind of bummed because it seems like there is always another step. 
   My twin sister offered me her uterus if we wanted her to be our surrogate.  I would much rather adopt though.  But now, my husband seems like he's wavering  on fostering.  I just feel kind of alone in all of this.

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  • Hugs, but TBH I thought this thread was going to be about actual mini muffins until I saw who posted.
  • *hugs*. I'm sending positive thoughts your way, muffin. And hope the scrape and a tickle goes smoothly! Glad your insurance paid for you to go under too.


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    I am so sorry that you have been struggling. But I hope you are seeing a RE and not an OB/GYN for the clomid treatments.
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  • So many hugs to you. I hope everything goes well. Sorry to hear you're going through all this. 
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  • KatWAG said:
    I am so sorry that you have been struggling. But I hope you are seeing a RE and not an OB/GYN for the clomid treatments.
    All of this. There is a lady on TB that shares a ton of info and personal experience with Clomid. Check out the trying to get pregnant board, the poster is TheBorg7of9

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  • I'm sorry to hear this.  Nothing is worse than wanting a baby and not being able to have one, I think.  I'm glad you do have some other options to you still.  

    I also thought this was about cooking mini muffins at first, and figured it might be hard to get them out of those little tin holes.  :)

  • I'm so sorry, muffin. Think of you!

  • Sorry to hear you are having a hard time.  I don't have any advise to share, but just sending thoughts & prayers your way.  You have an amazing sister for her to offer that option.  I hope you & H can find a solution that works best for the two of you.  Hugs.
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  • It is kind of crazy how difficult TTC can really be. TVs and movies make it look so easy, but it isn't. I am currently 7 months in and the only thing I have to show for it is a missing fallopian tube and scars on my stomach. I hope things look up for you :)
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  • Muffin,

    Don't think you are alone in this.  There are lots of woman who have fertility issues, its just not talked about very frequently.  I have been trying for a year with no success.  My problems are different than yours (PCOS), but we still have the same overall problem.  I hope that your D&C goes well.  I hope that you and H can navigate any future discussions about kids with open minds to the various options you two have.

    Also, don't be afraid to seek out any online support groups who may have similar TTC issues as you.  It will help you to not feel alone when you will see that lots of other women, unfortunately, are going through similar problems.

    Hugs to you.

  • Thank you, ladies.  I have missed you all so much.  I will take all of the advice you have all given me, and thank you all for your support.  I'm so grateful for this community <3 Hugs
  • I'm so sorry you're going through all of this. I really hope things work out! Big Hugs! 

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  • I am so sorry.   The TTC journey is definitely not puppies and rainbows. 

    The only advice I have other than what others have said is to continue to focus on your marriage.   Sometimes the journey to conceive can turn into something that's all-encompassing (i'm guilty of this) so when you can, try to remember why your DH is so great that you want to raise kids with him.   I was definitely guilty of trying to turn sex into something that we had to do *that night* like it was a bill that was going to have a late fee attached if it wasn't done immediately.     So I hope you're able to have some moments where you can relax too.  
  • banana468 said:
    I am so sorry.   The TTC journey is definitely not puppies and rainbows. 

    The only advice I have other than what others have said is to continue to focus on your marriage.   Sometimes the journey to conceive can turn into something that's all-encompassing (i'm guilty of this) so when you can, try to remember why your DH is so great that you want to raise kids with him.   I was definitely guilty of trying to turn sex into something that we had to do *that night* like it was a bill that was going to have a late fee attached if it wasn't done immediately.     So I hope you're able to have some moments where you can relax too.  
    ugh, I feel you on this one. I've been sick and sniffly and H has been super busy at work, but it is that time of the month and all I can think of is just getting it in real quick so we can have a chance this cycle.

    And I hate that.
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  • sarahufl said:
    banana468 said:
    I am so sorry.   The TTC journey is definitely not puppies and rainbows. 

    The only advice I have other than what others have said is to continue to focus on your marriage.   Sometimes the journey to conceive can turn into something that's all-encompassing (i'm guilty of this) so when you can, try to remember why your DH is so great that you want to raise kids with him.   I was definitely guilty of trying to turn sex into something that we had to do *that night* like it was a bill that was going to have a late fee attached if it wasn't done immediately.     So I hope you're able to have some moments where you can relax too.  
    ugh, I feel you on this one. I've been sick and sniffly and H has been super busy at work, but it is that time of the month and all I can think of is just getting it in real quick so we can have a chance this cycle.

    And I hate that.
    Yeah - and it isn't that DH and I don't love each other - but there were times that it definitely felt like a task.   Which makes it sad when we're at the point now when it's just infrequent because of life.   
  • Sorry you're going through all this. We've been trying for over 3 years and had a failed IVF last summer, so I am no stranger to this struggle and heartbreak. Sending you positive vibes and virtual hugs. 
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • Hugs to you, AddieCake.
  • In a way, I find it comforting to talk to others about their issues. It helps you feel like you aren't alone.
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  • I'm sorry about your diagnosis, but when/if you are ready to try again there are things you can do to improve your lining AND since you can't take Clomid (which can thin your lining for those of you who don't know) you can try Femarra.  Femarra is a breast cancer treatment drug that has an off label use of improving fertility of women. The drug company figured it out when a lot of women taking it for breast cancer were getting pregnant.

    Also, with your diagnosis you can make an appointment to see a reproductive endriconologist (RE) who will be much better versed in treatment options for fertility issues.  OB/GYNs are great for treating pregnancy but not great about actually getting you pregnant.

    Good luck!
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