Dear Prudence,
I am a divorced man in my 50s, and two weeks ago I happened by chance to reconnect with a woman with whom I had a relationship for a couple of years in the mid-’80s. I was very happy with her, but I was in my 20s and not able to provide her the kind of serious relationship she wanted or deserved. I was a jerk, and I was lucky that she stayed with me as long as she did. Now, 30 years later, she is a widow and we are together again, this time older and more mature. I could easily fall in love with her again, except for one thing. She just sent me a to-do list that includes about 10 things about my lifestyle that she wants me to change. There’s nothing on the list I cannot comply with, such as not drinking soda and only eating organic fruits and vegetables. But the existence of the list bothers me! Am I wrong?