My brother and his now ex-fiance have a daughter together; my niece.
Before their split, they were invited as a family to my wedding.
Once they split I assumed I would invite my brother and niece, but no longer include my brother's ex since she was invited originally as part of a social unit that now doesn't exist.
Problem- my parents aren't even really sure where my brother is living right now. He won't speak to them and has basically been completely uninvolved with my niece since the split. So, I don't know where to send an invite. Question one- even if he's being a d-bag right now, I still want my brother to know he's invited to the wedding, although I have a hunch he won't show. Since we have no address for him, do I just send it in care of my parents to him?
Question two- normally I would include my niece on my brother's invite; but since he's not talking to anyone, and may never come to their house to get his invite, do I invite my ex-FSIL and include my niece on her invite?
Other info in case it matters:
- I don't dis-like my ex-FSIL; honestly, I hardly know her. I'd have no problem inviting her to the wedding since she is the mother of my niece
- Ex-FSIL is not keeping my niece from my parents (at least at this point). They tried taking my niece w/ them on a vacation earlier this month for a week, but it ended early b/c niece was homesick. This also means niece may not be okay in October to travel with my parents for a week or more away from home, especially if one of her parents isn't with her.
- Doubtful that ex-FSIL will attend. She lives far away (Arizona), is essentially a single, working parent, and may not be able to afford time off of work. And she just may not want to go to a wedding so shortly after ending an engagement.
- My parents are willing to bring my niece if she wants to come / mom lets her; my mom's sister (my aunt) would stay with my niece during the wedding ceremony. Niece and my aunt have "met" via Skype sessions.