Hi all.
This is kindof a vent b/c it helps me process to write things down but trust your opinions so I thought I would throw it out.
I am trying to figure out if we should send save the dates or not. Family, I am not so worried about as they can be told word of mouth. Friends are my issue. Also, because I am not 100% on who to invite yet. Fi and I have a budget and a guestlist that is basically like we can host 100 people, family is 60% of that, you invite 20 friends, i invite 20 friends done. After I invite the non negotiable, must haves. I have 12.
I have put people into social circles; NY friends, spread out friends, and Hometown friends. Is there a polite way to poll everybody to see how likely they are to come. Or can I invite the VIPs out of each circle (that actually wouldn't help too much b/c they are all VIPs). I dont want to make assumptions about who I *think* will or wont be able to make it. Can I just ask them if they want an invite?
My hometown friends would benefit the most from a save the date b/c they have families, jobs, and less flexibility with time and finances. These are my peeps but I will have seen them 6 months before. They are not likely to be able to make it without advance notice to save. HT friends +spouses = 8 people. Add kids, 15 people.
NY friends. I have a couple that would Not miss it as long as they are in town. (Theatre people so schedules are difficult and you have to take work when there is work) This group is kind of a package deal. Sure I could just invite the few I know will absolutely come but I want the others to know that I am thinking of them and want them to come, even if they are less likely to do so. NY friends + spouses= 6 (I will have to check back next year to see if a few are dating anyone)
Spread out Friends. There are 2 girls+ boyfriends in WI, a girl + husband in Cali, a fella in OR. Besides the girl is Cali, they all know eachother. We kind of grew up together and it has been Waaay too long since we have been together. I doubt fella would make it but you never know. 7 people.
I wasn't worried about it, thinking i would just figure it out when it came time to send invites but if I invite my Hometown friends, they need a year to save. What advice or suggestions do you have?