A little over 2 months to go.. Anxiety

[Deleted User] · July 2015

We are about 2 months and 2 weeks away from the big day. I'm so excited and can't wait to marry my best friend. I'm so nervous that I'm forgetting something or that something will go wrong. I'm second guessing a lot of details. I'm so worried about all the attention on me. I can't decide if I want a first look or not. I'm panicking! Help me, knotties!

novella1186 · July 2015

BreezyMac100315 said:

We are about 2 months and 2 weeks away from the big day. I'm so excited and can't wait to marry my best friend. I'm so nervous that I'm forgetting something or that something will go wrong. I'm second guessing a lot of details. I'm so worried about all the attention on me. I can't decide if I want a first look or not. I'm panicking! Help me, knotties!

I personally would recommend doing a first look. I get bad anxiety, and it melted all my nervousness away as soon as H and I saw each other for our first look. We were super relaxed after that. Plus it was great to get that special moment in private and get it well-documented on film, rather than have our "first look" be in front of tons of people as I walk down the aisle.

Generally I hate the idea of having all eyes on me, but I honestly didn't even notice the guests because I was so focused on H and so excited to be married to him. I've heard a lot of other brides say the same. So I ended up not being nearly as nervous as I thought I would be.

And as for the details, you may forget some. I did. It didn't matter, no one noticed, I didn't even notice, and it didn't impact anything. So no big deal. I would highly recommend putting your shoes, undergarments, jewelry, rings, and marriage license all in one box/bag together so that you only have to remember that 1 thing and all the important things will be in it. As long as you remember the important stuff, the rest is just minor details that don't really matter in the grand scheme of things.

The point is to end up married by the end of it all, and that will happen even if you forget to tell the florist that you needed an extra boutineer.

lavenderfields13 · July 2015

Everything @novella1186 said!

I was so happy we did a first look. It was just an amazing private moment (besides the photographers who we didn't even notice). I will never forget the look on my husband's face when he turned around to see me.

[Deleted User] · July 2015

He does not want to do the first look because he said he wants to see me walking down the aisle for the first time. In considering maybe one of those pictures with us on either side of a door holding hands. Feeling him and being able to talk to him may ease my nerves. The photog even suggested a kiss .. Eyes closed of course.. Around the door real quick.. I think it would calm me down

I'm nervous because I get nervous hives and break out from head to toe which is not a pretty look!

Edit: spelling

vikinganna87 · July 2015

@BreezyMac100315 My H was a bit hazy on the details of our wedding day, since I did most of the planning and he only had opinions on a few things. A couple of days before the wedding he was disappointed to find out we'd be taking photos in advance - he's also traditional and wanted to see me for the first time when I was walking down the aisle. But in the end he didn't care and both of us found that extra time together really nice and comforting. We were talking and laughing during the photo shoot. If I were you I'd definitely try to convince him that a first look will be more pleasant for both of you and help calm your anxiety.

[Deleted User] · July 2015

vikinganna87 said:
@BreezyMac100315 My H was a bit hazy on the details of our wedding day, since I did most of the planning and he only had opinions on a few things. A couple of days before the wedding he was disappointed to find out we'd be taking photos in advance - he's also traditional and wanted to see me for the first time when I was walking down the aisle. But in the end he didn't care and both of us found that extra time together really nice and comforting. We were talking and laughing during the photo shoot. If I were you I'd definitely try to convince him that a first look will be more pleasant for both of you and help calm your anxiety.

I'll try my best to convince him!

julieanne912 · July 2015

I was also at the same point you were, at just over 2 months out. I even posted about it haha!

But, now that my invites are out (those were my biggest cause of stress), I'm much more relaxed.

FI also didn't like the idea of a first look, but basically I told him he could join all his friends at the cocktail hour instead of taking tons of pictures if we did a first look, and that's what sold him.

I also have this folded up piece of notebook paper where I write anything that pops into my head. I keep it with me all the time and just the act of having a running list helps me out. I'll go over the list here and there with my MOH and she tells me what is and isn't a big deal (she used to be an event planner). That's been super helpful.

knottie10 · July 2015

I just posted something similar to you right now. I'm freaking out about missing or forgetting something. I also have a little over two months to go. Maybe this is when it starts to happen.

I like what PP said about writing anything that comes to her mind, I try to do that in the "notes" section on my phone.

After reading this thread I'm really considering a first look, I was initially hesitant.

[Deleted User] · July 2015

knottie10 said:
I just posted something similar to you right now. I'm freaking out about missing or forgetting something. I also have a little over two months to go. Maybe this is when it starts to happen.
I like what PP said about writing anything that comes to her mind, I try to do that in the "notes" section on my phone.
After reading this thread I'm really considering a first look, I was initially hesitant.

I was initially completely against the first look but after reading a lot of both I thought maybe I should change my mind. So convincing the fiance is the next step. I have been super calm up until now but I think this is when it starts to feel real. I'm about to send out my invites so it is definitely seeming super real. And I'm starting to panic haha

[Deleted User] · July 2015

julieanne912 said:
I was also at the same point you were, at just over 2 months out. I even posted about it haha!

But, now that my invites are out (those were my biggest cause of stress), I'm much more relaxed.

FI also didn't like the idea of a first look, but basically I told him he could join all his friends at the cocktail hour instead of taking tons of pictures if we did a first look, and that's what sold him.

I also have this folded up piece of notebook paper where I write anything that pops into my head. I keep it with me all the time and just the act of having a running list helps me out. I'll go over the list here and there with my MOH and she tells me what is and isn't a big deal (she used to be an event planner). That's been super helpful.

Love that idea! I'll have to try that

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