So, my FML wants to throw us an engagement party a year after we got engaged. It's going to be ~25% his family and ~75% her friends, who even my FI doesn't know. My immediate family will only be invited if I insist, and I don't think they'll be able to take the vacation and fly out there anyway - so almost completely people I don't know, which is going to do wonders for my social anxiety on top of everything else. Most of the guests are not on the wedding invite list, and cannot be as long as FI & I are the only ones paying for the actual wedding. (We don't have any space in our budget for more than family ATM.)
She's also told us that we'll get gifts and cash there, and we can use it toward the wedding later, so maybe we can invite those people after all. She's even told us to make sure to register before then so people know what to get us.
I know. So many rude things going on here, and I'm completely overwhelmed by it....Every time I push back against this, she comes up with a new way to try to placate me instead of cancelling - she's very stubborn, and at this point I feel like the party will probably happen whether or not we're there.
Should I just roll my eyes and go along with it? These are her friends, across the country from me, who I will never meet again, after all. She should be the one embarrassed about all of this. Or should I put up a bigger fight against it?