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First Dance etiquette?

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My FI really wants to use "She's Everything" by Brad Paisley for our first dance song. I may be overthinking things, so I need opinions. If you haven't heard the song, here is a link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JCjXaEbrLdw
If you don't feel like taking the time to listen to the song, it is the man singing about how great the woman is the entire time and how "she's everything" to him. 
My question is, would this be weird since it's more about one of us instead of us as a whole? Does this seem self-centered, disrespectful, etc..? Keep in mind that the guests at our wedding will have no idea that this was FI's idea and may think that I chose the song myself. Thanks in advance for your help! 
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    Blue_BirdBlue_Bird member
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    I think you're overthinking this. And I seriously doubt your guests are going to be analyzing the lyrics of the song, if they even bother to listen to them. Do yo like the song? If so, use it.
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    erinlin25erinlin25 member
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    you are over thinking. It's a beautiful song IMO.
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    AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Overthinking.
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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    Overthinking
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    Overthinking.  We are using "Soulmates" by Josh Turner.  I think you will find that a lot of songs like this tend to be about the singer and how he feels about the woman/man he loves (Then" by Brad Paisley for example also)  No worries, your song will be just fine!
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    aliwis000aliwis000 member
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    Overthinking.

    I did a fast google search about top wedding first dance songs. There are hundreds of lists. I posted the top 10 from one list below. Most of the lists have the majority of these songs on them in one order or another. As you notice most of them are one person talking/singing about another. I think you have a beautiful song. It will be lovely!

    All Of Me
    Wonderful Tonight
    The Way You Look Tonight
    At Last
    Marry Me
    What A Wonderful World
    Marry You
    I'm Yours
    Can't Help Falling In Love
    God Gave Me You
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    Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    Overthinking.  

    I rarely notice the lyrics to a first dance song.  So I certainly won't be sitting their analyzing the song and thinking "this is too much about her and not enough about him!"

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    julieanne912julieanne912 member
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    Agreed, overthinking.  I think it's actually sweet that he picked that song for your first dance.  

    If you really really are worried about it though, I think it could be a nice "walking down the aisle" song, although you probably wouldn't get to use the whole song that way. 

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    AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Any time someone wants to analyze songs played at the wedding reminds me of when HGF used to shriek in horror at the prospect of anyone using "Wonderful Tonight" at their wedding b/c the song was written for another man's wife. 
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    Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Overthinking.
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    MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    Agree overthinking.

    But if it would make you really uncomfortable, you could look for an instrumental version. 
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    SP29SP29 member
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    Overthinking.

    I doubt you will easily find with lyrics intended towards to people. Most songs are written from the perspective of the artist to someone else.

    The song is beautiful.

    A first dance song is also a personal choice- as long as it isn't morally or ethically offensive, no one has any reason to be offended by any song you choose.
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    randomsloverandomslove member
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    Beautiful song and if you're both happy with it, go with it.

    We're using the song we danced to on the first night we met, Darius Rucker's version of Wagon Wheel. Not necessarily a "normal" first dance song, but the meaning of it is more important to us.





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    mrscomposermrscomposer member
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    Overthinking.

    You're going to run into this with any song with lyrics - the gender of the person singing vs. the gender of the person they're singing to.

    Our first dance was "Always In My Head" by Coldplay.  Just because it's Chris Martin singing it doesn't mean that I don't feel the same way towards my husband.

    **The OMH formerly known as jsangel1018**
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