Dear Amy: My husband and I have been married for over 30 years. We own a small business together. Several times a week he drinks at work and comes home feeling highly sexed.
His drunken state is a huge turnoff. When I turn down his offer of sloppy, drunk sex, he berates me, calls me names and retreats to another room where he engages in phone sex with women on sex sites. This lasts for hours. In the morning he looks quite unattractive to me. He is hung over and in his own world.
I have told him if he comes home sober I will be happy to enjoy “time” with him. When he comes home even somewhat sober we enjoy a sex life. I think he is addicted to these sites. How can I reconcile it (in my head) to not think he is gross after his nights of too much booze and porn?
Grossed Out