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Payback - 42 years late.

CMGragainCMGragain member
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edited August 2015 in Chit Chat
I just got an email from my college, asking me to rate and describe my university experience.  It was specifically from the school of music.
I finally put in writing what everybody knew back then.  I was sexually harassed publicly by two male professors, and molested by another.  I wasn't the only one.
They are all dead, so it only matters to me.  It felt good. 
You ladies who think I'm not a feminist because of my traditional etiquette have no idea what the seventies were like.  We've come a long way, baby!
(...and they wonder why I never sent them any alumnae fund money!)
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Re: Payback - 42 years late.

  • chloe97chloe97 member
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    Wow. @CMGragain, I am so sorry that you went through that.

    I think that  us women of the younger generations take so much for granted. If I was sexually harassed and/or molested by a professor, there would have been a mechanism to report and I would have been taken seriously, particularly if other women went through similar experiences. And if I wasn't (because we know that sexual abuse victims are not always treated well on college campuses), there were Rape Crisis centers on campus that I could go to for support. We owe a lot to your generation for the battles that you fought for us to have better lives and to be taken seriously. 

    A 72 year old female doctor that I work with told me a story about how she had a miscarriage during her residency in the early 1970's. She called her attending physician to let them know that she wouldn't be able to come to the hospital that day. He chastised her for getting pregnant in the first place and warned that she would get kicked out of the program if he found out that she was pregnant again. 

    How far we have come. Thanks for sharing that story. 


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  • pinupbride6189pinupbride6189 member
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    I'm so sorry that happened to you. As a fellow survivor, I know what you mean when you say it feels good just to say it out loud for yourself, even if you know nothing can be done about it.  Thanks for sharing your story.

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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    I'm glad you were able to respond in that way and that you feel better about it.
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • natswildnatswild member
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    edited August 2015
    Good on you for being able to respond to them in the way you did, and glad that writing that response had a positive effect on you

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  • kmmssgkmmssg mod
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    The 70's and 80's were rough times for females in the men's world.  I am so sorry you had to suffer through that CMG but I am glad you were able to get it off your chest and let them know what happened.

    We both know that nothing would have been done back then and you would have been the one to blame in the scenario.  Hell, it is still prominent in the military and on college campuses!  I know being a female in the military in the 80's would make you or break you because we were a sub life form that were only meant to be clerks, nurses, and cooks.  Back then there were no female fighter pilots and flight surgeons among other things.  We have come a long way!
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  • sparklepants41sparklepants41 member
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    I'm so sorry that happened to you.

    I know how much courage it must have taken you not only to tell your university but also us fellow knotties.

    I admire your strength.

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