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This is my first post on here but I know someone somewhere must be experiencing this-unfortunately. I am a young bride (21) and my fiancee (21) and I have been together for about 5 years. Our-hopefully-wedding will be on August 13, 2016. I have had such a struggle with my mom. She has put down every idea I have said and now its to the point where I don't even want to think the wedding because no matter what she will put it now. Last month, she dragged me to a wedding dress salon to just look at dress. We didn't have a budget in mind like I wanted. She was actually interested in the wedding so of course, I went along. My mom says she will give some money for the wedding but isn't sure about how much and she'll give it to at some point. Unfortunately, my fiancee and I can't fund the wedding ourselves. But today, I asked if a date this August would work to go dress shopping with my friend, two of my grandmas, her and my future mother in law. And of course she went off the deep end. She said that it would be a circus and no one would have fun and that her and my grandma-her mom don't want to be involved if that is what I want. My question is how do you deal with this?
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Re: Mom Problems
The only people who are responsible for paying for your wedding is you and your FI. I would not do anything that depends on money from anyone else. Plan a wedding you and your FI can afford with NO HELP FROM ANYONE. Stick to these boards more than a few weeks and you will see how counting on money not in your hand is dangerous. PLUS money comes with strings, you think your mom is overwhelming you now...wait till she has the right to give all her opinions bc you are taking her money.
Your best bet is to figure out what you both want. Do you want to get married sooner and therefore probably have a smaller wedding with whatever you can save between now and next year? OR Do you want a big wedding with all the extras meaning you will have to have a long engagement and maybe wait 3 or more years depending on how much you can save.
It does not sound like you can have everything you want. That sucks I know. But at the end of the day all you really need is whatever your state requires to get married, maybe a license, officiant, and perhaps a witness. Everything else is just extras.