So I've run into an issue with my sister in concerns of her bridal shower and would like to hear what everyone thinks about this situation. My sister had been married to her husband for almost two years in a court house ceremony that they had in which I attended. Fast forward to now and my sister is having what she's considering her "real"wedding in which I'm the MOH, though it does sometimes baffle me why she's getting married again- I don't voice this to her.
The problem comes into play in concerns of her bridal shower that she wants. I currently live over 3 hours away from where my sister, mother and the rest of the bridal shower live. For the last few months I've had an extremely difficult time finding a venue under $500 dollars(not including food, decorations, etc) because I honestly have no idea where to host a shower down where she lives. My mother and the rest of the bridal party have not helped with finding the location at all and my sister finally told me I could host it at her house(which is well suited for it) if I couldn't find a place.
Yesterday I drove down to visit and confirmed that she was okay for me to host the shower at her house and she said yes, she didn't want to clean or set up which I told her she wouldn't have to do at all and we spent awhile talking and planning ideas for her wedding. I text her last night confirming the date, venue and registry then ordered invitations once she stated that all sounded great. Fast forward to today and when I call her letting her know the invites should be arrive in a week or so and I'll be sending them out then. She became very short on the phone with me and basically hung up the phone.
My mother calls me shortly after and basically chews me out for ordering the invites (which I also informed her I was doing last night and she agreed with) and got to the point I actually had to hang up the phone with her. I called my sister back and she flipped a switch that how dare I have her bridal shower at her house and I knew she didn't want it there, and apparently my mother had been trying to get a hold of me for weeks (no missed calls or texts from mom but okay). She also went on about how I've basically haven't done anything as MOH and she doesn't even know why she's having me in her wedding, as I dropped the ball on her bachelorette party (I'm pregnant and told her right away I'm uncomfortable going to a bachelorette party when I'll be 6 months pregnant- but I told the other bridesmaids about this and asked them if they could host).
I told her we've discussed this and that I don't live down there and I could either host a party at her house like we had agreed, up where I live (like she made me drive down for my own) or have one of the other girls host it for her and I help as needed. The end result is I've been disinvited from the wedding. I've been in five weddings and never once had any issues like this. I honestly feel she's acting like a child and it makes me feel bad that something so stupid could cause a break in our otherwise good relationship. So how would you handle this situation? Words of wisdom welcome