Hi,
I want to do the right thing here. One of my guests wasn't dating anyone at the time we sent out our invites. I asked if he wanted to bring anyone that I could address the invitation to. He said no, that he was fine coming by himself since he's family, and a lot of other family will be there as well that he will be visiting with. Okay, totally fine.
I just recently found out that he is dating someone, so I reached out to him, told him that she is absolutely invited to our wedding, and could he please let me know the spelling of her name for her escort card. He asked if her 3 kids can come as well. He didn't seem like he was demanding that her children come, just asking if they can attend.
Our wedding is family friendly, and I am inviting children. Am I required to invite her children as well? My hesitation is that we are having a small wedding - about 50 people. I definitely don't mind his SO coming at all. But with her kids coming, that will be about 10% of our total guests. Not that I mind at all, just want to do the right thing here.
I'm leaning towards saying yes as I don't want to start an argument, but we are already on the very top of our guest max at our venue. We are at 56 (including us). Our venue max is 60 people. So I do have just enough room for her and her three children, but not sure if our venue requires our vendors to be in the guest max as well.
For people lurking: I only invited 50 people. Not only did we get 100% yes's, but with marriages throughout the past year, and people having kids, etc., that added 8 people (16%!!) to my total guest count. I don't feel like I did bad planning by inviting 50, when our venue holds 60. But just as a caution to people reading this, that your guest count can grow a lot more than you expect.