I am recently engaged, and already hitting some roadblocks. I currently have three different decisions to make, and they of course all play in to each other.
Picking my battles:
Where to have the wedding. He is from Michigan, I am from Kansas. I currently live in San Antonio and he will be moving here by January. I would like to have the wedding in San Antonio, as it is where we will live and it would be a fun place to invite all of our friends and family too. One whole side of his family will not leave Michigan, and will not be at any wedding outside the state. I am not a big fan of Michigan, after spending four not so great years going to school up there, so I would prefer to not have the biggest day of my life take place there.
Extra reception with his family before or after the honeymoon? Depending on how the above battle plays out, we would have a second reception in Michigan for all of his family who refuses to leave the state. I prefer to get married and leave right away for a week or two at our honeymoon destination, but the FI wants to wait awhile for the honeymoon and instead have the reception with his family right away.
Future sister in law as a bridesmaid. Classic problem, and I’ve read enough on here to know that the consensus is don’t have a bridesmaid you don’t want. Is this something however I can “give” my FI to sway him in having the wedding in San Antonio and/or waiting till after the Honeymoon for the reception? He already has more groomsmen in mind than I would like to have bridesmaids, so I guess I could always “use another body on my side”, but my heart isn’t in it. We aren’t close, and I actually have no idea if she even wants to be a bridesmaid, my FL just assumed I would have her.
Alienate half his family, spend our first married days with his potentially difficult family, or possibly upset my FI and FSIL by not having her as a bridesmaid?