Should I invite...

Knottie1436805937.defunct635832252505236958 · September 2015

This girl and I used to be very close for a few years. We worked together, but then we both left the company, moved many miles apart, and although we still talk on occasion, we are not close anymore. No fights or disagreements, we just don't see each other much, or have much in common anymore. I knew she started a wedding coordinating business, so of course I asked her for a quote. I regret it now, because she is WAAAY out of my price range, even with my friend discount; which she was kind enough to offer me. Now, I have to turn her quote down, but am wondering if I'm obligated to invite her to the wedding. I honestly probably wouldn't have if I had never brought up the wedding coordination. And, if I invite her now, she'll become a guest instead of a vendor, and I am sure will bring her husband and two kids (kids are welcome). So, that's 4 new people to the invites list, and we are pretty much out of room. But, I don't want to be rude, and it feels awkward to me, that I asked her to be a possible vendor, but not inviting her. Thoughts?

Pupatella · September 2015

Knottie1436805937 said:

This girl and I used to be very close for a few years. We worked together, but then we both left the company, moved many miles apart, and although we still talk on occasion, we are not close anymore. No fights or disagreements, we just don't see each other much, or have much in common anymore. I knew she started a wedding coordinating business, so of course I asked her for a quote. I regret it now, because she is WAAAY out of my price range, even with my friend discount; which she was kind enough to offer me. Now, I have to turn her quote down, but am wondering if I'm obligated to invite her to the wedding. I honestly probably wouldn't have if I had never brought up the wedding coordination. And, if I invite her now, she'll become a guest instead of a vendor, and I am sure will bring her husband and two kids (kids are welcome). So, that's 4 new people to the invites list, and we are pretty much out of room. But, I don't want to be rude, and it feels awkward to me, that I asked her to be a possible vendor, but not inviting her. Thoughts?

Nope! Don't invite her. You are not obligated to invite her just because she gave you a quote.

"Hi. My FI and I are on a really strict budget for our wedding, and although we would love to hire you as our wedding coordinator, you are out of our price range. I hope this doesn't come between our friendship in any way".

If she asks if she is invited, just reiterate that you are on a tight budget and have a very limited guest list. Doesn't mean that you can't keep talking to her about your normal convo stuff, but I would keep the wedding talk minimized.