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People inviting themselves - Just hit a new low.
So it happens to all of us once the invitations go out, right? There are always those handful of guests that think it's cool to call you up and ask if they can bring an uninvited friend/lover/long lost sibling/whatever to your wedding. I guess some people just don't think, but this whole "invite yourself to a wedding because you're a fool" has just hit a new low for me...
A short backstory: We had our guest list finalized, or so we thought. Right before we sent out the invitations, we added my FI's aunt and uncle. He isn't close with them, but his uncle was recently diagnosed with an illness we knew FI's parent's would enjoy seeing them. We did not invite FI's adult cousin (who doesn't live with said aunt/uncle, but is still very dependent on them), mainly because she is a train wreck, FI isn't close with her and we are already at our max budget on our guest list.
Shortly after the invitations were sent out, Cousin messages FI on FB asking about the invitation her mom received, saying her dad might not be able to go and she might take his place, traveling with her mother but it was still up in the air. That was irritating enough, I told FI he needed to contact his aunt/uncle to let them know that we are unable to accommodate their daughter. He didn't.
Skip to today: Cousin messages him again on FB, letting him know that her mom sent out the rsvp and that all three of them can make it! YAY! My FI is always too nice, so he just wants to let it go, as irritating as it is. I'm inclined to go with his decision since it's his family, but I'm still mad as hell! First of all, if you're gonna be rude, at least be rude considerately!JK I mean, his aunt/uncle never even contacted us to ask if they could add her to their rsvp. I'm hoping she's full of shit and the rsvp will arrive with just the aunt/uncle as planned, but I won't hold my breath.
Who does this? If you're sad you didn't get invited to a wedding, maintain your dignity, stay home and drink alone like everyone else!
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Re: People inviting themselves - Just hit a new low.
A short backstory: We had our guest list finalized, or so we thought. Right before we sent out the invitations, we added my FI's aunt and uncle. He isn't close with them, but his uncle was recently diagnosed with an illness we knew FI's parent's would enjoy seeing them. We did not invite FI's adult cousin (who doesn't live with said aunt/uncle, but is still very dependent on them), mainly because she is a train wreck, FI isn't close with her and we are already at our max budget on our guest list.
Shortly after the invitations were sent out, Cousin messages FI on FB asking about the invitation her mom received, saying her dad might not be able to go and she might take his place, traveling with her mother but it was still up in the air. That was irritating enough, I told FI he needed to contact his aunt/uncle to let them know that we are unable to accommodate their daughter. He didn't.
Skip to today: Cousin messages him again on FB, letting him know that her mom sent out the rsvp and that all three of them can make it! YAY! My FI is always too nice, so he just wants to let it go, as irritating as it is. I'm inclined to go with his decision since it's his family, but I'm still mad as hell! First of all, if you're gonna be rude, at least be rude considerately!JK I mean, his aunt/uncle never even contacted us to ask if they could add her to their rsvp. I'm hoping she's full of shit and the rsvp will arrive with just the aunt/uncle as planned, but I won't hold my breath.
Who does this? If you're sad you didn't get invited to a wedding, maintain your dignity, stay home and drink alone like everyone else!
WHAT A SURPRISE MY BOXES ARE FUBAR
For the record, if anyone has a romantic partner, that SO must be invited with them on their invitation, period.
I'm still stunned that a grown woman (FMIL is in her 60's so I'd imagine this cousin is of similar-ish age) would RSVP yes to a party she was not invited to attend.
I bit my tongue to FMIL.
The reason she wasn't invited was due to our budget and not being close to her, not because we thought she was too unstable to attend. FI, knowing her history, apparently thought that forcing the issue of her not being invited would cause issues with her and that leads me to think she is a manipulative person. But now that she has gotten her way, I'm hoping she will enjoy herself at our wedding.