No "Thank you"'s

Re: No "Thank you"'s

• thisismynickname2 member

  

  September 2015

  Oooooo.

  
  

  And who knows if it was just lost in the mail or they actually snubbed you! 

  
  

  If they couldn't even talk to their own groomsman at the rehearsal or wedding, I'd be removing them permanently from my list of friends, frankly. 

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• lnixon8 member

  

  September 2015

  Maybe she just hasn't gotten around to all of them yet. My wedding was large and I got all the cash/check/card thank yous done very quickly... then the 4 year old lab we rescued 2 weeks earlier suddenly had to be put down and less than 24 hours later our entire first floor had 4 inches of water from a freak bathroom accident upstairs. There is defiently a gap in between my guests recieving thanks yous.

  
  

   Not saying this is what happened to you but people say to mail thank yous as soon as you write them. Hopefully yours will come soon!

  
  
  

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• Jen4948 member

  

  September 2015

  Sounds like a big trainwreck. They should have spoken to you. And certainly you are due thanks. I won't even go near the "honeyfund." (Ugh.)

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• peachy13 member

  

  September 2015

  I have a huge problem with people not sending out thank you cards - for any event in general. My FBIL and his wife actually did what I think OP is describing... sent out thank you cards to select people and then skipped others. For whatever reason, they skipped thanking a ton of our friends. And guess what? Everyone noticed. A year after the wedding, one of our friends asked if we were ever thanked, which were were, and then everyone realized that they were likely purposely skipped. The wedding was 3 years ago and there are still some people who bring it up.

  
  
  
  

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• Pupatella member

  

  September 2015

  What is the typical time you have to write all of the thank you notes? 1 month or so?

  
  

  I think almost 4 months is ridiculously long!! Hopefully you aren't getting snubbed!!

  
  

  We also attended a wedding a few months ago, but not one person has received a thank you note yet (at least not that we are aware of). I have seen a lot of messages going back and forth about it. Not to mention that the groom told all of the GM (my FI was one of them) that he was going to mail their GM gift post wedding. No thank you note, no GM gift (I wouldn't care except he specifically mentioned he would send one). It's honestly a bit hurtful especially since they planned their wedding in about 2 months, and we had to spend a lot of money to book last minute flights to be there for them.

  
  

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• dyerwise member

  

  September 2015

  Thanks all. I felt kind of petty at first, but I've helped my sisters with their thank you's for weddings, bridal/baby showers, and sent thank yous for my own things before, it just seems like the right thing to do! 

  
  

  I saw the couple after their honey funded Hawaii honeymoon, and asked how their time was and she lamented that since people didn't donate enough to their honey fund they didn't do much besides lay around the hotel...
  

  
  

  @Pupatella, I can't believe they would basically say "The gift is in the mail!" and then not send anything out! Just don't say anything! 

  
  

  My FI's GM gift from this wedding was an empty growler with my FI's last name etched on it, but it says "Established 2015".. which makes no sense, their marriage was established then, not my FI. So thanks for the empty jug. 

  
  

  
  

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• InLoveInQueens member

  

  September 2015

  peachy13 said:

  I have a huge problem with people not sending out thank you cards - for any event in general. My FBIL and his wife actually did what I think OP is describing... sent out thank you cards to select people and then skipped others. For whatever reason, they skipped thanking a ton of our friends. And guess what? Everyone noticed. A year after the wedding, one of our friends asked if we were ever thanked, which were were, and then everyone realized that they were likely purposely skipped. The wedding was 3 years ago and there are still some people who bring it up.

  
  

  I went to a [clusterfuck of a] wedding ~2 years ago with my fiance and his family (it was a family friend getting married, they practically grew up together) that would probably deserve its own post (fiance and I lived together before the invitations were sent, he was still invited on the same invitation as his cousins at his old address, that he hadn't lived at for ~4 months, registry info on the invite, honeyfund, etc.). We gave them a check and never heard anything, no thank you card, not even a "thanks" text. Saw the bride at the wedding for 3 seconds, the groom never even came to our table (we were at the "bride's friends" table). I'm still bitter about it 2+ years later.

  
  

  The bride's mom and dad were invited to our engagement party and gave us a gift. We sent out thank you cards within 2 or 3 days.

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• aliwis000 member

  

  September 2015

  Sounds terrible! I am from Texas and 110 would kill me.
  
  I will take a different tack and maybe say it got lost in the mail? Since other people have gotten notes maybe something just happened in transit? Do not get me wrong, this girl sounds like a real peach. However, things do happen. Our mail is terrible, to the point we send most things from our work since we have had better luck with that.
  
  I am still stunned by the fact she would basically blame others for not giving them enough for all the extras on their honeymoon. Gross.
  

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