Hi. This is the first time posting, but I have been reading for a while. I need some advise on the engagement ring, or maybe just encouragement. While the ring is beautiful, it is also very big and very bold, and just doesn't fit my personality. it wears me, instead of me wearing it, if you know what I mean.
My first problem: he designed it. It is a thick white gold band that has a princess cut center diamond. On each side of the center stone there are 2 smaller round diamonds sitting side by side. Next down from the round diamonds, there is a birthstone - red on one side, blue on the other. They are quite large and are in diamond shape with a thick/heavy white gold outline. Then there are 2 more round side by side diamonds. Clearly a lot of thought and effort has gone into this ring, but it just screams carnival ring to me - and I feel like such an unappreciative snot thinking that, but I just can't get past this. It is not growing on me like I had hoped it would.
My second problem: After a few glases of wine, and a lot of "I can do this", I got his full attention, looked him in the eye, and told him that the ring is too big and bold for me to be able to pull off. I tried to be gentle, yet honest (without mentioning the carnival thing, because that would be just mean and harsh) - he doesn't agree with me! I think he thinks that I am just being too modest and that I feel like it is not ok to wear large ring.
So now, what do I do? Re-address it - let it go?? I don't want to hurt his feelings, but if it just sits in a drawer sometime in the future, that would hurt his feelings anyway. I just don't know how to bring it up again, or what to say to make him understand that this ring is just not right for me, yet still be respectful of him. Plus, like I said before, I feel like such a snot to complain about something that was given to me - especially with all the effort and love that went into it.
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