We're having a relatively casual Sunday noon wedding. We're goofy people who dislike high levels of formality. As such, we're not planning on people dancing. (We've got lawn games, ambiance music, and games for entertainment.) We're not interested in having a formal "dance" with our parents, for many reasons.
While we wanted to do a quick first dance with each other, but the idea of dancing with our parents makes us extremely uncomfortable. Neither of us have that sort of relationship with them. And it feels insincere to participate in a tradition without meaning it. So we've decided we wont have a first dance, and we're trying to eliminate the dances with our parents (no matter how quick, or how many people are 'in the spotlight')
My father (who is paying 80% of the wedding, my FI and are cover the rest) isn't a big fan of dancing anyway, but I can tell he also wants to have some sort of special moment to share. And I agree.
However, my FI's mother will be beyond upset that we don't want to "honor" her with a Mother/Son dance. She's been "dreaming of this her entire life". I sympathize that the MOG doesn't get the same attention she wants, and that unfortunately I'm not her ideal daughter in law.
Our whole goal with the wedding is to stay as authentic and true to who we are as a individuals and as a couple. But she's putting up such a fight about it and threatening to ruin the atmosphere at the wedding with her complaints.
How can we honor our parents, appease his mother, and not dance?
Thanks for your help!