So my parents have recently been to two weddings that are just full of etiquette blunders and my FI and I are invited to one in a couple weeks which I am already seeing issues with. I'm not sure if I was just blind before coming on the knot or if these are just becoming more common. Anyways thought I'd share.
1st Wedding my parents went to this summer:
1. They were invited verbally because the bride (daughter of a family friend) had received too many declines. They were told that the area held 100 but that they were numbers 107 and 108 and hoped that they could be squeezed in... Not even sure why you would invite extra people due to declines if you were already over capacity but for some reason my parents accepted.
2. They get there a little before 3 the scheduled start time and the bride doesn't arrive until 4:30. To appease the people waiting the groom comes and gets the bar started so everyone is drunk without food before the ceremony even begins.
3. Dinner isn't served until after 6:30, people have been drinking on empty stomachs for a good 3.5 hours now.
I'm sure there were more issues but those are just the ones I got from my parents.
2nd Wedding my parents went to:
1. My dad went to the bachelor party which had raffles and other fundraising for the groom. He thought it was fun he won whiskey and beer.
2.Again wedding started late. Everyone was there but it started 45 minutes after the time on the invite.
3.They told me that it was in an old house so the close family/friends was seated on the first floor and co-workers (my father) and extended family/friends were on a balcony on the second floor. It was a buffet so they had to go downstairs to get food and then carry it back up the stairs.
Wedding FI and I are going to in a couple of weeks:
1.There is a minimum 2.5 hr gap between ceremony and reception (this is assuming a very long ceremony)
2.The invite says tthat there will be a cash bar at the reception (at least there's a warning I guess...) and includes a link to their registry - you guessed it a honeymoon registry...
They are coming to our wedding 2 weeks later so we are going. I'm less than excited about the experience but at least my expectations are low so it can only get better.. right? I'm also worried b/c they didn't have a section for meal choice so they are probably having a buffet but as I'm a vegetarian and due to current etiquette overlooks I'm wondering if I'll be surviving on salad and cornbread for the night.