Community› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat
Chit Chat
New Discussion
Options

Wording- only inviting guests over 19 yrs of age

Knottie3154111 Knottie3154111 member
in Chit Chat
How do I word the invites when we only want to invite people who are 19 years of age or older? We have way too much family to not cap it somewhere so we have chosen 19 (that way everyone can drink)
Report Reply to Post

Re: Wording- only inviting guests over 19 yrs of age

  • Options
    lyndausvilyndausvi mod
    First Anniversary First Answer 5 Love Its Name Dropper
    You only put the names of the people invited on the envelope.   

     If you want let the big mouths of the families spread the word.   Every family has one.  You can somehow slip it into a conversation if the wedding comes up.  






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
    Report Reply
  • Options
    STARMOON44STARMOON44 member
    First Comment First Answer 5 Love Its Name Dropper
    The wording you use is the address- you only address the invitations to people who are invited.
    Report Reply
  • Options
    novella1186novella1186 member
    First Anniversary First Comment First Answer 5 Love Its
    So basically you're saying you want a no-kids wedding (which is totally fine). People who are 19 are legal adults, so they should get their own separate invite anyway. (For example, if one of the 19 yr olds you want to invite still lives at home with their parents, and you're also inviting the parents, you address one invite to the 19 yr old and another invite to mom & dad, and send both invites to the same address). 

    As lynda said, address the invites to those who are invited and leave off the names of anyone who's not invited. I also agree with her that the family gossip can spread by word of mouth that kids are not invited. 

    If someone RSVPs for their kid anyway, you'll just have to call them and say "sorry for the misunderstanding, but we aren't able to accomodate little Susie." Don't give excuses cuz that leaves room for arguing. 
    image
    Report Reply
  • Options
    arrrghmateyarrrghmatey member
    First Anniversary First Comment 5 Love Its First Answer
    Knottie3154111 said:
    How do I word the invites when we only want to invite people who are 19 years of age or older? We have way too much family to not cap it somewhere so we have chosen 19 (that way everyone can drink)
    As PP said, you do not put anywhere on the invite who is not invited. Address the envelope only to those guests who are invited.

    If you're worried people will RSVP and add their children/18 years and younger, you could put on your RSVP card something along the lines "We have reserved ___ seats in your honor" and fill in the number of guests in addition to addressing the invite envelope to only those invited. If they still don't get the hint, then you will have to call and explain who the invite was for.
                                     Wedding Countdown Ticker

                                                   image
    Report Reply
  • Options
    Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
    First Anniversary First Answer First Comment 5 Love Its
    Just because I am curious, where do you live where 19 year olds can drink?

    Report Reply
  • Options
    lyndausvilyndausvi mod
    First Anniversary First Answer 5 Love Its Name Dropper
    Maggie0829 said:
    Just because I am curious, where do you live where 19 year olds can drink?
    I think parts of Canada have a 19 year old drinking age.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
    Report Reply
  • Options
    cupcait927cupcait927 member
    First Anniversary First Comment First Answer 5 Love Its
    Maggie0829 said:
    Just because I am curious, where do you live where 19 year olds can drink?
    I'm guessing Canada
    Report Reply
  • Options
    princessleia22princessleia22 member
    First Anniversary 5 Love Its First Comment First Answer
    Maggie0829 said:
    Just because I am curious, where do you live where 19 year olds can drink?
    I'd guess Canada.  I grew up in Michigan and my friends and I often took weekend trips to Canada between the ages of 19-21, so we could barhop. 

    image 

    Report Reply
  • Options
    TrixieJessTrixieJess member
    First Anniversary First Comment First Answer 5 Love Its
    Maggie0829 said:
    Just because I am curious, where do you live where 19 year olds can drink?
    Probably Canada, most of the provinces are 19, a couple are 18. We live in Ontario where it's 19 to drink, so we used to cross the border to Quebec to drink at 18. 

    It's a pain though when we used to go down to the States because I would always forget the drinking age was older. Thank goodness for fake ID :)
    Report Reply
  • Options
    WinstonsGirlWinstonsGirl member
    First Anniversary First Answer First Comment 5 Love Its
    Yup.  Canada is 19, except for Alberta and Quebec which is 18.  Quebec, cos of the French tradition I assume, and here cos we're rednecks who brew our own moonshine. JK  ;)

    Report Reply
  • Options
    YogaSandyYogaSandy member
    First Anniversary First Comment 5 Love Its Name Dropper
    WinstonsGirl said:

    Yup.  Canada is 19, except for Alberta and Quebec which is 18.  Quebec, cos of the French tradition I assume, and here cos we're rednecks who brew our own moonshine. JK  ;)

    Manitoba is 18.

    Report Reply
  • Options
    snowywintersnowywinter member
    5 Love Its First Comment Name Dropper
    Knottie3154111 said:
    How do I word the invites when we only want to invite people who are 19 years of age or older? We have way too much family to not cap it somewhere so we have chosen 19 (that way everyone can drink)
    I'll be the voice of the minority here and say that to me, personally, it's weird to do a cut-off based on who can drink. I understand you need to cap it somewhere though and I guess that's as good a spot as any.

    Anyway, as others have said, just address the envelopes to those invited.
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards