Dear Amy: I am in my early 20s and am engaged to a man in his early 40s.
We were both big drinkers. Then we decided to have a baby.
I stopped drinking, but he continued. It was definitely the cause for a lot of arguments.
I hate admitting this, but there was a domestic abuse charge filed against him. I was pregnant, and I sort of blame myself.
He drinks four to seven nights a week. He’s not abusive, but is rude, annoying and sometimes mean. He wets the bed. We argue a lot. He takes the stress at his job out on me, and constantly makes me feel bad that I’m not the “breadwinner,” since I am a stay-at-home mom.
I’m 23 years old and I worry I will be forced to be with this man until my son is 18. I’m scared that my son will drink like his dad, or worse, like his Grandpa, who gets drunk every day.
My mother loves my fiancé and tells me to suck it up for my child. She says my baby’s father is “a good provider.”
I know I can stick it out until my son is 18, if that’s what I have to do. I love my son and I just want him to have the very best life with the best opportunities.