I am 11 days out from my wedding and my grandfather has passed away from cancer. Up until a few weeks ago, he was well enough that he was planning on being at the wedding. He deteriorated very quickly, and it came as a big shock to me. I'm struggling with my feelings right now. I'm overwhelmed with grief and sorrow for losing such a wonderful and important man, but I'm also stressed out about wedding planning and overjoyed that I will be married so soon. Simultaneously, I feel like I'm in some sort of bizarre fog that won't let me understand things clearly.
We had already ordered the programs--with my grandfather in the wedding party--when he passed, but we are not planning on changing them. We have a Memorial section in the program for FI's mother, cousin, and aunt, so I feel that it might be a little strange to just "leave it as is" without saying something. At the same time, I don't want to upset people (including myself) on my wedding day by adding some sort of elaborate memorial for my grandfather. Would it be acceptable to have our officiant add something at the beginning of the ceremony to honor our passed loved ones, or would that be too much? Maybe I could put a framed photo on his chair? I feel like I'm so tied up in my grief right now that I can't figure out how to approach this situation gracefully.