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Snark on Bridezillas

IceQueenSupreme94IceQueenSupreme94 member
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edited July 2015 in Snarky Brides

To keep it brief: My cousin is getting married in 3 months. I am a bridemaid in her wedding. This week she demanded that I come over and help put together center pieces for the reception. Unfortunately I couldn't make it because I work and go to school but I asked if we could do it on the weekend. She hasn't text or I called me back and I've discovered she asked one of her friends on Facebook to be a bridemaid (most likely in my place.)

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Has anyone else had a bridezilla moment?

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  • onefootinthebayouonefootinthebayou member
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    Omg. Hopefully she would not dismiss you over that but if she did, count your blessings! Yikes.

    I could be wrong but I don't think I had any appreciable 'zilla monster moments. Even the week before the wedding when I was traveling my clients were like, "wow, you're so calm" or "how are you not freaking out?!" Uh, b/c at the end of the day I have a groom, a license, & an offiant and am about to marry my favorite person on earth.

    I guess b/c I had never imagined my wedding growing up and completely lacked a wedding vision, it was nearly impossible to let myself down with the result. I love throwing parties & this one wasn't much different.

    Sorry, boring answer. Keep us updated on what happens with the cousin!
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    fyrchk said:
    I hate when you ask someone's opinion or ask "is this okay?" and their response is, "Whatever YOU want. YOU'RE the bride!" Yes, but I'm also a fairly reasonable person...
    Especially when you're actually asking for their opinion, and you really want to know what they think. "Whatever you want, anything is fine!" No, no. I'm asking what you think because I want to know. 
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    That's my fiancé. Then I make a choice and he bitches.
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    IceQueenSupreme94 said:

    To keep it brief: My cousin is getting married in 3 months. I am a bridemaid in her wedding. This week she demanded that I come over and help put together center pieces for the reception. Unfortunately I couldn't make it because I work and go to school but I asked if we could do it on the weekend. She hasn't text or I called me back and I've discovered she asked one of her friends on Facebook to be a bridemaid (most likely in my place.)

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    Has anyone else had a bridezilla moment?

    If her response is to drop you from her wedding party, count your blessings.  I am sure this would not have been the last of her demands.  Anyone that would ask, via Facebook, someone to be in their wedding party is pretty cold.  Have you been asked to purchase a dress?  If you have and she has in fact dropped you, I would not hesitate at all to ask for reimbursement.
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    This is a bit of a zombie thread but I'm genuinely curious @icequeensupreme94, how did this turn out?  Did she really drop & replace you?  Did the wedding just occur since we're 3 months from your OP?  Would be interested to hear an update.  If she was that horrible to you, I'd be interested to hear what a potential shit show that wedding was.  Hope all is well w/you.  
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    fyrchk said:
    I hate when you ask someone's opinion or ask "is this okay?" and their response is, "Whatever YOU want. YOU'RE the bride!" Yes, but I'm also a fairly reasonable person...
    I went with my BM shopping for dresses, and I gave them 3 parameters, color, length, and where so they matched in color (later discovered that it doesn't matter as much as I thought). the whole time, they are like "no no this is about what you want, and what you want us to wear!" I said like 5 times pick what you like and makes you feel comfortable.. I was like I am not the one that has to wear this!
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    ryanandjoe4 said:

    fyrchk said:
    I hate when you ask someone's opinion or ask "is this okay?" and their response is, "Whatever YOU want. YOU'RE the bride!" Yes, but I'm also a fairly reasonable person...
    I went with my BM shopping for dresses, and I gave them 3 parameters, color, length, and where so they matched in color (later discovered that it doesn't matter as much as I thought). the whole time, they are like "no no this is about what you want, and what you want us to wear!" I said like 5 times pick what you like and makes you feel comfortable.. I was like I am not the one that has to wear this!
    Same here... I had one MOH, no bridesmaids.  I told her "wear whatever you want".  She kept wanting me to go shopping with her etc.  We couldn't find a lot of time to connect in person, so I started sending her dresses I found online that I thought would 1) look nice on her  2) that she could use again for work or whatever... and she didn't like most of them LOL  Finally I said, hey, why don't you go find like 3 dresses you like and then I'll help you pick from those 3.  So that's what we did.  
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    julieanne912 said:
    ryanandjoe4 said:

    fyrchk said:
    I hate when you ask someone's opinion or ask "is this okay?" and their response is, "Whatever YOU want. YOU'RE the bride!" Yes, but I'm also a fairly reasonable person...
    I went with my BM shopping for dresses, and I gave them 3 parameters, color, length, and where so they matched in color (later discovered that it doesn't matter as much as I thought). the whole time, they are like "no no this is about what you want, and what you want us to wear!" I said like 5 times pick what you like and makes you feel comfortable.. I was like I am not the one that has to wear this!
    Same here... I had one MOH, no bridesmaids.  I told her "wear whatever you want".  She kept wanting me to go shopping with her etc.  We couldn't find a lot of time to connect in person, so I started sending her dresses I found online that I thought would 1) look nice on her  2) that she could use again for work or whatever... and she didn't like most of them LOL  Finally I said, hey, why don't you go find like 3 dresses you like and then I'll help you pick from those 3.  So that's what we did.  
    Yes, I gave a guideline (floral-pattern sundress in any color) and made it clear I don't care what they choose but they are still insisting that they will text me the picture so I can approve it before they buy it. Is there a nice way to say, "I LITERALLY DO NOT GIVE A SHIT WHAT YOU WEAR STOP ASKING!!!" by any chance??? ;) 
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    spockforprez said:
    julieanne912 said:
    ryanandjoe4 said:

    fyrchk said:
    I hate when you ask someone's opinion or ask "is this okay?" and their response is, "Whatever YOU want. YOU'RE the bride!" Yes, but I'm also a fairly reasonable person...
    I went with my BM shopping for dresses, and I gave them 3 parameters, color, length, and where so they matched in color (later discovered that it doesn't matter as much as I thought). the whole time, they are like "no no this is about what you want, and what you want us to wear!" I said like 5 times pick what you like and makes you feel comfortable.. I was like I am not the one that has to wear this!
    Same here... I had one MOH, no bridesmaids.  I told her "wear whatever you want".  She kept wanting me to go shopping with her etc.  We couldn't find a lot of time to connect in person, so I started sending her dresses I found online that I thought would 1) look nice on her  2) that she could use again for work or whatever... and she didn't like most of them LOL  Finally I said, hey, why don't you go find like 3 dresses you like and then I'll help you pick from those 3.  So that's what we did.  
    Yes, I gave a guideline (floral-pattern sundress in any color) and made it clear I don't care what they choose but they are still insisting that they will text me the picture so I can approve it before they buy it. Is there a nice way to say, "I LITERALLY DO NOT GIVE A SHIT WHAT YOU WEAR STOP ASKING!!!" by any chance??? ;) 
    julieanne912 said is the best way, let them send you their ideas and choose from there..
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    I hear the vendor comments and it is totally about being a customer and not getting the level of service I expect especially since because it's a wedding it costs ... 25-50% more pretty much :) My photographer has been completely MIA, never put tax in our contract and asked for it and I'm approx. 2 weeks out and has yet to send me a day of timeline for photos. I haven't freaked out at her or anyone but I have told Fi he'll need to handle her cause I might freak.

    This bride sounds NUTS. It's her wedding. She needs to make her own DIY centerpieces..

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    spockforprez said:
    julieanne912 said:
    ryanandjoe4 said:

    fyrchk said:
    I hate when you ask someone's opinion or ask "is this okay?" and their response is, "Whatever YOU want. YOU'RE the bride!" Yes, but I'm also a fairly reasonable person...
    I went with my BM shopping for dresses, and I gave them 3 parameters, color, length, and where so they matched in color (later discovered that it doesn't matter as much as I thought). the whole time, they are like "no no this is about what you want, and what you want us to wear!" I said like 5 times pick what you like and makes you feel comfortable.. I was like I am not the one that has to wear this!
    Same here... I had one MOH, no bridesmaids.  I told her "wear whatever you want".  She kept wanting me to go shopping with her etc.  We couldn't find a lot of time to connect in person, so I started sending her dresses I found online that I thought would 1) look nice on her  2) that she could use again for work or whatever... and she didn't like most of them LOL  Finally I said, hey, why don't you go find like 3 dresses you like and then I'll help you pick from those 3.  So that's what we did.  
    Yes, I gave a guideline (floral-pattern sundress in any color) and made it clear I don't care what they choose but they are still insisting that they will text me the picture so I can approve it before they buy it. Is there a nice way to say, "I LITERALLY DO NOT GIVE A SHIT WHAT YOU WEAR STOP ASKING!!!" by any chance??? ;) 
    Ha. So for my bridesmaids I just said "pick any purple dress". Despite my saying this, neither of them could choose something without my input/approval, which was fine, but I really did not care as long as they were happy in the dress. If you have nice, sweet women in your life it seems they can't help but be concerned with your opinion. Meanwhile for my sister's wedding two of her friends vetoes like every dress we picked out for them and my sister gave up and let them choose within a color and fabric from one designer. 
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