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Sherbie25 · September 2015

After reading so many posts about the drama of who to invite, the venue, where to seat people, bridesmaids, inlaws, etc, I'm so glad I'm marrying in Vegas with just my other half and his parents (as we always go there on holiday together)! Anyone else skipping all this and having an intimate wedding? X

colasuda · September 2015

You do you, lady. If an intimate wedding is the way to go for you and FI, more power to you.

I'm planning a wedding for around 90, and there has been almost zero drama so far. It also happens to be in Vegas, since that's where we live. While weddings definitely bring out the worst in some people, and there are bound to be some hiccups, I'm willing to deal with all of it to have everyone I love in a room together for a kick-ass party.

ryanandjoe4 · September 2015

Same here about 120 people, and mine has been 95% drama free, it is in less than two weeks and I am not stressed about it at all. and the drama is from a dress shop not ordering a dress and giving me the run around, for a hard to fit 11 year old BM. Family drama is family drama if it isn't over a wedding it will be over something else..

ShesSoCold · September 2015

Sherbie25 said:

After reading so many posts about the drama of who to invite, the venue, where to seat people, bridesmaids, inlaws, etc, I'm so glad I'm marrying in Vegas with just my other half and his parents (as we always go there on holiday together)! Anyone else skipping all this and having an intimate wedding? X

Uhhh...congrats? Drama feeds on drama and doesn't exist unless you allow it to get to you. My MIL did irreparable damage to her relationship with her only child during our wedding planning and we didn't consider our planning process drama-filled.

lyndausvi · September 2015

We invited 174 people, no drama to speak of.

Well, my brother and his wife caused some drama (they missed their flights), but they always cause drama , so nothing new on that front.

julieanne912 · September 2015

Yeah we invited almost 200 and 130 came, and there was little to no drama (a few blips here and there but nothing crazy). But, we don't have a lot of family drama to begin with. If you already know your family is crazy, then having a big wedding isn't going to help.

climbingsingle · September 2015

I had 125 people at my wedding. No drama.
Maybe if you're constantly surrounded by drama, it's not other people - it's YOU.

Sherbie25 · October 2015

climbingwife said:

I had 125 people at my wedding. No drama. Maybe if you're constantly surrounded by drama, it's not other people - it's YOU.

Jeez! I don't have drama with my family! But after reading lots of posts in n this forum, I like that I'm keeping it simple and celebrating with people after the fact. I know this is a snarky page but that was unfounded and uncalled for.

climbingsingle · October 2015

Sherbie25 said:

climbingwife said:

I had 125 people at my wedding. No drama.
Maybe if you're constantly surrounded by drama, it's not other people - it's YOU.

Jeez! I don't have drama with my family! But after reading lots of posts in n this forum, I like that I'm keeping it simple and celebrating with people after the fact. I know this is a snarky page but that was unfounded and uncalled for.

Did you think the Snarky board would not have snark? You came to snark on others for having larger weddings. So apparently you can dish it out but not take it.

madamerwin · October 2015

climbingwife said:

climbingwife said:

I had 125 people at my wedding. No drama. Maybe if you're constantly surrounded by drama, it's not other people - it's YOU.

Jeez! I don't have drama with my family! But after reading lots of posts in n this forum, I like that I'm keeping it simple and celebrating with people after the fact. I know this is a snarky page but that was unfounded and uncalled for.
Did you think the Snarky board would not have snark? You came to snark on others for having larger weddings. So apparently you can dish it out but not take it.

But but but.... You're supposed to snark WITH me, not AGAINST me!

As PP's have said, you do you. But not every wedding with more than three guests has drama. We have 95 people, and there was zero drama to be had. It went off without a snag. And it IS true that drama begets drama, so... yeah.

ryanandjoe4 · October 2015

I think a large reason people feel like weddings are all drama is because people only talk, complain, or remember the bad. if we all were on here:

My wedding is farting sunshine and rainbows everywhere, it is just so wonderful!

Then no one would be on this site... There are the moments where someone will post the we got married, and here are the beautiful pictures, but everyone moves on after congratulations.

There can be drama with the elopements, just like a large wedding. It is all about the participants and their capability of handling drama..

redwoodoriginal · October 2015

ryanandjoe4 said:

There can be drama with the elopements, just like a large wedding. It is all about the participants and their capability of handling drama..

QFT. Lots of elopement can cause drama because family gets upset about not being there, or if the idea is even thrown out, family gets upset and drama ensues. Or, for intimate weddings, if only certain people are invited, other family can cause drama by being upset bc "why them and not us" type thing. Elopement / intimate weddings does not equal no drama.

Sherbie25 · October 2015

climbingwife said:

climbingwife said:

I had 125 people at my wedding. No drama. Maybe if you're constantly surrounded by drama, it's not other people - it's YOU.

Jeez! I don't have drama with my family! But after reading lots of posts in n this forum, I like that I'm keeping it simple and celebrating with people after the fact. I know this is a snarky page but that was unfounded and uncalled for.
Did you think the Snarky board would not have snark? You came to snark on others for having larger weddings. So apparently you can dish it out but not take it.

I was not snarking about large weddings per se, I was specifically referring to the posts where people complain about issues they have! I have been to many lovely large weddings; each to their own. Again, I was only referring to the posters who have had troubles. Wind your neck in as we say in England!

JediElizabeth · October 2015

Sherbie25 said:

climbingwife said:

climbingwife said:

I had 125 people at my wedding. No drama. Maybe if you're constantly surrounded by drama, it's not other people - it's YOU.

Jeez! I don't have drama with my family! But after reading lots of posts in n this forum, I like that I'm keeping it simple and celebrating with people after the fact. I know this is a snarky page but that was unfounded and uncalled for.
Did you think the Snarky board would not have snark? You came to snark on others for having larger weddings. So apparently you can dish it out but not take it.

I was not snarking about large weddings per se, I was specifically referring to the posts where people complain about issues they have! I have been to many lovely large weddings; each to their own. Again, I was only referring to the posters who have had troubles. Wind your neck in as we say in England!

"After reading so many posts about the drama of who to invite, the venue, where to seat people, bridesmaids, inlaws, etc, I'm so glad I'm marrying in Vegas with just my other half and his parents "

Sounds like snark about large weddings to me...it actually sounds like you let other people coming here to vent and get advice decide your decision not to have the big wedding...or maybe you're just letting other people's problems make you feel better about not having the big wedding experience? At the very least you seem to think your wedding is superior because you decided not to have a big one and therefore you think you eliminated drama...

Either way, the way you said it came off as judgmental. Words have meanings. People react to those meanings. They don't read your mind and react to what you meant to say. Why do so many posters think that doesn't apply to them?

Sherbie25 · October 2015

Apologies if I came across as judgemental, not what was meant. Everyone's wedding is special for them, no ones is more important or superior.

climbingsingle · October 2015

Oh OK.

After reading so many posts about the drama of who to invite, the venue, where to seat people, bridesmaids, inlaws, etc, I'm so glad I'm marrying in Vegas with just my other half and his parents (as we always go there on holiday together)! Anyone else skipping all this and having an intimate wedding?

Yup, totally not judgy at all.

Sherbie25 · October 2015

I've apologised and you're still being narky. No need to carry it on.

ryanandjoe4 · October 2015

I think you said this to me at some point.. You realize your on the "snarky bride" board right?

Sherbie25 · October 2015

Thought you might comment on this!

AddieCake · October 2015

I don't understand the point of this post. You definitely came across like you were tooting your own horn, and I, too, was thinking, "Uhhhh, good for you? Want a cookie?"

Sherbie25 · October 2015

AddieCake said:

I don't understand the point of this post. You definitely came across like you were tooting your own horn, and I, too, was thinking, "Uhhhh, good for you? Want a cookie?"

The point was to ask others if they were doing a small wedding. Not to have an argument about larger ones. I'll say it again- apologies if I offended anyone it wasn't my intention. Everyone's wedding is equally special and important. I felt relief I wouldn't have some of the issues some posters have had/are having- this wasn't relevant to people who do not have any issues. I am a recent member and from the uk, so maybe the way I am coming across is unusual-no offence meant. I enjoy using this forum and have begun to recognise regular posters. I don't want people to think I'm an arsehole! Let's all wipe the slate clean?

hellohkb · October 2015

Cool.

TheCheeseWench · October 2015

I would have had bunches of drama/hurt feelings had I chosen to run away to get married without a crowd. We chose to do the whole wedding thing to keep from upsetting the families.

ryanandjoe4 · October 2015

TheCheeseWench said:

I would have had bunches of drama/hurt feelings had I chosen to run away to get married without a crowd. We chose to do the whole wedding thing to keep from upsetting the families.

same I suggested it to my FI, but he is the baby of the family full of woman that would be very hurt and never let it go if we eloped. Plus my mom would be angry that both her older kids eloped.

laurad75 · October 2015

TheCheeseWench said:

I would have had bunches of drama/hurt feelings had I chosen to run away to get married without a crowd. We chose to do the whole wedding thing to keep from upsetting the families.

Same here. My FI would have preferred that we have a small DW but I am very close with my family and its important to me that they can be there. So now he wants to invite everyone he knows. So far there has been minimal drama and our wedding is going to be a big kickin' party.

julieanne912 · October 2015

TheCheeseWench said:

I would have had bunches of drama/hurt feelings had I chosen to run away to get married without a crowd. We chose to do the whole wedding thing to keep from upsetting the families.

Same here... especially with my mom, who ended up paying for a lot of ours. I'm her only daughter, and my older brother has already said if he ever gets married he'll do it without anybody there at the JOP. So, the big wedding was as much for her as it was for us.

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