I am the maid of honor in my good friend's wedding tomorrow. She got engaged to this guy very quickly because he is an immigrant and he wants a visa so he can visit his family in his home country and because she really wants to get married. I just met the guy for the first time yesterday. He's very quiet and speaks very limited English.
We hung out until late last night, just the three of us and had a good time, except one moment where I gave him a congratulatory hug and he put his hand on my butt and tongue kissed me, right in front of the bride . I pulled away and called him out and he and she said I was mistaken. My friend said she knew it wasn't his tongue because "he never uses tongue when he kisses." She told me it was just a wet kiss, which is a "Latino thing."
When I left to go to my hotel, she repeatedly insisted he walk me there, even though I told her I was fine and wanted to walk alone. He carried my backpack and when we got to the door of my hotel, he told me sorry for the kiss, but that I am just so "bonita." I awkwardly told him that is because his fiance is beautiful, inside and out, so of course she would attract beautiful friends. He gave me another hug, again putting his hands on my butt and pressing his crotch against me.
He spent the next half-hour telling me he is getting married so he can go home and all come back to the USA and all the issues and worries he has about getting married. I had trouble following because of his broken English, but I think he was trying to say he doesn't really want to marry my friend. He did that helps hug thing three or four more times during this.
I finally was able to break away and told him I was tired and going to bed and asked for my backpack. He wouldn't give it to me, telling me he wanted to walk me inside. Once inside, I again asked for my bag and he said he he would give it to me by the elevator. I started looking around for someone else, but it was late and there wasn't even someone at the desk.
Thank God there was someone waiting on the elevator. I again demanded my backpack and he said, "are you sure you don't want me to walk you to your room?" I said no, jumped in the elevator, and cried for an hour in my room.
I don't know what to do. I feel like, if I tell my friend, she won't believe me and will take his side. Even if she does, I am guessing she will still marry him and she will dump me as a friend. But I feel wrong standing up in her wedding knowing her fiance is a creep. I was charged on by my ex-husband and would love to avoid that pain and divorce for my friend.
No matter what I do, I lose. So what is the right decision?