Beware: this is long (sorry!)...I'm writing this because I'm curious if anyone else has been in a similar situation and what happened to you and your friends.
I don't think that anyone wants to ever have regrets in their lives, and especially not on their wedding day. However, I have mine because of a number of factors that were beyond my control...not to drag on too much, but here's the situation: DH was hospitalized due to an accident the week before the wedding (he's fine, thank the Lord, but WOW it was scary), our wedding was across the country in our home state and when I got there some things that I had asked my mom to do weren't done (not a big deal, it just took a lot of time for her to do them and added to her stress level), I asked MOH not to spend much on the bachelorette party but I found out how much she and the other girls spent and it was waaaaay too much, the restaurant which was catering our rehearsal dinner closed the week before so I had to find a different place two days before the rehearsal, and my DOC backed out two days before the wedding leaving me to coordinate everything myself. Oh, and I had a job interview where I had to give an hour long presentation on the day after I got back from the wedding that I hadn't prepped for due to these other circumstances.
Overall, I will say that our wedding was successful- DH and I are married, my dress fit great, the weather was amazing, food/DJ/photographers/etc. were good, and we were surrounded by a ton of our wonderful family and friends. My one regret is that I was soooooo stressed on the actual day of the wedding because my DOC backed out and the duties fell to my two closest friends, who I ended up snapping at and totally turning bridezilla on for no reason other than I was overwhelmed. Basically, I felt awful because I had planned with my DOC and sent everyone schedules because I didn't want for me or my BMs to have to worry about these things, then they did have to worry about them and I hurt their feelings. They are so very, very wonderful and I wish that I had taken more time to spend with them and thank them and realize that they were exhausted and not mad at me (yes, they were annoyed, but at the end of the night I was in tears because I found out that I hurt their feelings and made the situation much worse than it was initially). FYI- don't read articles that say that people lie to you on your wedding day- it made me paranoid and I ended up ruining what should have been great wedding memories.
Anyways, hopefully I can manage to salvage our 20+ year friendship after my awful behavior that night. And more advice to future brides- if you're a people pleaser having a big wedding (~200) just hire a DOC. I would have spent a LOT of extra money, but it would have been worth it to not have dealt with the stress of the day, crying that evening and pretty much for the next two days, and facing broken friendships over something so silly. Also, if you say you don't want a big wedding, DON'T HAVE ONE! I was pressured into a big wedding because I was told I'd "regret it if I didn't"...but now I regret that I did because it was so stressful for everyone.
So I'm curious- did anyone else experience the "accidental bridezilla" moments on their wedding day? I know this all happened because of the stress that I was under, but I feel sooo terrible for being awful to my bff's. I sent them an apology and some flowers but still haven't heard anything. I'm trying to go with the "time heals all wounds" approach, but I just don't know.