Mystery gift what to do?

ryanandjoe4 · October 2015

We have a mystery gift we don't know what to do, is not signed, no card, just wrapped.. We have asked my mom and his mom who would have given gift but neither know.. doing process of elimination didn't help we didn't get a gift from everyone (no big deal other than it would have helped solve this dilemma)..

I am writing thank you's today sending them out tomorrow, we opened it Monday I have been trying to figure it out, but I think you guys are creative so please give me ideas.....

Wegl13 · October 2015

Is it a registry item? Some registries will actually log the name of the person that bought it (is it Kohls that tried to do the auto "thank you note" thing?) so that's an option.

photokitty · October 2015

Was it brought to the wedding or mailed?
If it was brought to the wedding I would just start spreading by word of mouth that you received a lovely xxxx but don't know from whom. Do not ask anyone who didn't give a gift directly if they gave It, as that could embarrass them if they chose not to give a gift.

ryanandjoe4 · October 2015

Nope it is a rando gift of crystal olive dish (we don't eat olives) and a crystal cracker dish.. So it will become cheese and cracker dishes..

Wegl13 said:

Is it a registry item? Some registries will actually log the name of the person that bought it (is it Kohls that tried to do the auto "thank you note" thing?) so that's an option.

We did amazon they did the same thing with the auto thank you notes.

thisismynickname2 · October 2015

After process of elimination, who's left?

Depending on who's left, I would approach it a couple different ways. If it's family who are close to my mom, say, I might have mom dig around a bit. "Ryan got this amazing crock pot but there was no card- any ideas?"

If it was a few friends, I might send a text or e-mail: "Had so much fun seeing you at the wedding! Hey, I got this amazing crock pot but there was no card. Any idea who may have sent it?"

Although there is a risk of making people feel awkward for not giving a gift, I'd take that evil over the evil of not thanking someone for a gift.

lyndausvi · October 2015

We got a mystery gift. Well sort of, the card had 4 names with no last name. We just didn't recognize the combination of names together. It was sent to DH's work, so we figured it was from one of the resort guests (we got a few gifts from resort guests).

I think it might have been the designer of the item since we know he was a guest and his first name is one of the ones on the card. I called the offices where it came from and they were very weird about helping me.

I still feel bad I didn't send out a TY, but at least I know I did what I could to find out who they were.

MesmrEwe · October 2015

If you've "asked around" ("Hey Mom/MIL/social circle, can you put some feelers out - we got some awesome crystal dishes and want to send a TY but we don't know who gave it to us") and still nothing, then maybe the FB vaguebook post that you have a beautiful crystal wedding gift but there wasn't a card - any ideas? post.. If still nothing, something to consider is sometimes vendors will give gifts like this. At least one or two of our vendors did this. OR, if you're at the end of the day unable to find out, assume that it was every one of your guests who you didn't get a gift from that gave it to you (but obviously don't send a TY unless you KNOW who it was).

Liatris2010 · October 2015

Usually facebook and weddings don't mix, but this is one of few exceptions.

"Spouse and I received a _______, but it was separated from it's card. If you sent it, please let us know so that we can properly thank you for the gift."

Easy peasy.

kvruns · October 2015

I'd do the process of elimination of guests you don't have a thank you note for and then see if you can match the gift to the giver so to speak. If I received that same mystery gift I would probably approach my mom first about it possibly being from one of her friends or a relative as opposed to one of my 30something friends. Sure they may get me a crystal olive dish/tray but it would not be my first group to guess.

ryanandjoe4 · October 2015

Liatris2010 said:

Usually facebook and weddings don't mix, but this is one of few exceptions.

"Spouse and I received a _______, but it was separated from it's card. If you sent it, please let us know so that we can properly thank you for the gift."

Easy peasy.

I was hoping to avoid facebook, since I feel like this would embarrass them if it is a public announcement.. but I guess as a last resort..

kvruns said:

I'd do the process of elimination of guests you don't have a thank you note for and then see if you can match the gift to the giver so to speak. If I received that same mystery gift I would probably approach my mom first about it possibly being from one of her friends or a relative as opposed to one of my 30something friends. Sure they may get me a crystal olive dish/tray but it would not be my first group to guess.

We have eliminated who all it could be and it is not something the guests that are left would give, IMO.. but it may be..

I didn't even think of a vendor giving a gift.. our manager at the venue is a cute older lady (like 60-70 years old) could be her...

delujm0 · October 2015

We got a random gift. It was a beautiful wood cutting board, personalized with our names and wedding date on it. We called the company it came from (there was no receipt in the box) and they refused to help us. On the website I noticed that it had recently gotten a stamp of approval from Oprah and the company had locations in Chicago and Austin, TX. I have family in Austin, and SIL lives in Chicago. but I had a very strong feeling it was from SIL.

A few weeks later SIL called and asked if we got the cutting board. So I was right! DH didn't want to ask her about it without prompting though because he thought that would be weird. You could ask the mothers, or maybe take a picture and post on Facebook (if a lot of your guests use that) and say "we got this beautiful (whatever) without a card! does anyone know who it came from?" A friend just did that with a baby quilt she received, and based on the comments she tracked down the sender in about 10 minutes.

ryanandjoe4 · October 2015

I am going to have to do the facebook post I called a few people last night and no one has any idea.. if the post doesn't work then I will call the reception hall and see if that is where it came from. if none of that works then I will have to hope someone asks me about it and their thank you will be late..

hyechica81 · October 2015

we had a gift that got separated i did a facebook post and the giver responded they also gave cash and she was afraid that the money was lost but it was not..

ryanandjoe4 · October 2015

Well, I gave up, posted it on facebook, no one responded... have asked al little further down friends and family trees but no luck, not from vendors either... So someone is not getting a thank you note..

MandyMost · November 2015

Same thing happened to me. We got a really cute personalized print from Etsy, and no idea who gave it. I asked around quite a bit, no one had any ideas. Oh well. It's not the end of the world.

ryanandjoe4 · November 2015

MandyMost said:

Same thing happened to me. We got a really cute personalized print from Etsy, and no idea who gave it. I asked around quite a bit, no one had any ideas. Oh well. It's not the end of the world.

Yes, I feel like I did my due diligence, I figured there might be some creative thinking here, but no biggie

southernbelle0915 · November 2015

We got this framed picture in the mail several months before our wedding. No card, no return address, nada. It was our names written in the sand on a beach with a heart around them. Then two pairs of feet on the edge (obviously not ours).

It was super odd. No one ever claimed it, so obviously we never wrote a TY note. Almost 3 years later, I still have no idea who it was from.

mileybangerz · November 2015

I sent you the gift.

ryanandjoe4 · November 2015

mileybangerz said:

I sent you the gift.

OOOKK I thought I saw you there! lol, your thank you is on the way!

thisismynickname2 · November 2015

southernbelle0915 said: We got this framed picture in the mail several months before our wedding. No card, no return address, nada. It was our names written in the sand on a beach with a heart around them. Then two pairs of feet on the edge (obviously not ours). It was super odd. No one ever claimed it, so obviously we never wrote a TY note. Almost 3 years later, I still have no idea who it was from. BOX BOX BOX------------------ The fact that feet are in your picture just really makes me laugh! Next time you host a backyard BBQ, pay close attention to all the sandaled feet and maybe you'll figure it out ;-)

onefootinthebayou · November 2015

We also received a mystery gift. It was a set of pint glasses, a poster, and 2 baseball hats from the bar where we met in New Orleans. It was a thoughtful gift and came with ZERO info on the sender as it was sent directly from the bar. The funny part? It was sent to us in a (clearly re-purposed) box from the bar that had contained "urinal cakes". How do I know this? B/c the words "Urinal Cakes" were written on the outside of the box that was delivered to my parent's house, and the only slip of paper inside the box was the receipt for said urinal cakes. They were orange-scented, if anyone would like to know.

We still haven't figured out who sent it, 5 months later. I have a nagging guilt for not having sent a TY note but every time we try to find out who sent it, we come up empty.

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