Trying to erase

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• CMGragain member

  

  November 2015 edited November 2015

  Knottie1445234088 said:

  I know this will not sound nice but I honestly cannot stand my FMIL and FSIL. I hate how they treat my fiancé like he means nothing. Its so upsetting because if something good happens to him, his mother will just shrug it off and begin to talk about his sister. I don't know what the hell is wrong with him but I need help dealing. She's the favorite in the family and my fiancé is overlooked all the time for no reason and I can't do it anymore. I have distanced myself so much from them and I know his sister realizes that I can't stand her anymore. Each time she tries to say anything to me or acknowledge me about something in her life, I just ignore her and look the other way.

       I don't mean to sound mean but I just can't handle it anymore. Its not about them, its about my fiancé and me and I don't need either of them in my life. I know my fiancé's still wants his mother in his life, so I won't take that away because I know that he loves her and that is and always will be his mother. I just, idk how to deal with this bullshit from this family. They don't make sense and everything seems to revolve around this brat of a sister. I feel that if something doesn't happen soon I'm going to explode. I know I'm venting here but I just need some advice. I don't want to cause drama in the family but I fear one day I will and it will damage the relationship I have with his mother right now. They are very negative people and only want, want, want. It's so different from how my family is. How can I handle a FMIL and FSIL that I hate? I know they won't be out of my life, but I know its rude to avoid them my entire life. What can I do and, I saw this earlier, do I have to have his sister as a bridesmaid?? -.-

  
  

  
  

  First, you need to calm down.  Your post is difficult to understand.  You give no examples of your FI's family treating him poorly, so it is hard to respond.
  
  1.  How does your FI feel about their treatment of him?
  2.  They will be your future in-laws, and you will have to deal with them, like it, or not.
  3.  I recommend counseling before you get married.  This cam help you bring feelings to the surface, and make sure that you and your FI are on the same page.
  4.  No, you don't have to ask his sister to be a bridesmaid..
  5.  Be very, very careful about badmouthing these people to anyone except your counselor.  It WILL get back to them!  This could ruin your marriage, depending on how your FI acts.  He might just defend their actions.
  6.  Your treatment of his sister is just inexcusably rude.  Grow up and stop acting like a child.  If she reaches out and tries to talk to you, respond with grace and politeness.
  7.  From the sound of your post, I think your should put your wedding plans on hold.  See that counselor! 
  

  

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• MNNEBride member

  

  November 2015

  You can delete what you wrote but not the responses or someone's quote of your post.

  

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• Heffalump member

  

  November 2015

  OP, if you ever come back, how old are you?
  

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• MNNEBride member

  

  November 2015

  She posted this v on "Student Brides" so I'm guessing she's about 20 yrs old.

  
  

  "Hey guys. I'm in school to become a teacher but now I have to get another certificate to go somewhere else. My fiancé proposed to me on Oct. 7, 2015 and we have been dating for 4 years now. We knew each other for 3 years before we started dating, but I never really liked him until one night when I could swear that he drugged me. Haha Just kidding but I'm glad that I ended up with him. I couldn't imagine getting married to anyone else. He is also in school though, to become a lawyer so we are waiting until he is done to get married. I seriously can't wait to be married to this man! 

  Congratulations to everyone as well! "

  

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• mrsconn23 member

  

  November 2015

  MNNEBride said:

  She posted this v on "Student Brides" so I'm guessing she's about 20 yrs old.

  
  

  "Hey guys. I'm in school to become a teacher but now I have to get another certificate to go somewhere else. My fiancé proposed to me on Oct. 7, 2015 and we have been dating for 4 years now. We knew each other for 3 years before we started dating, but I never really liked him until one night when I could swear that he drugged me. Haha Just kidding but I'm glad that I ended up with him. I couldn't imagine getting married to anyone else. He is also in school though, to become a lawyer so we are waiting until he is done to get married. I seriously can't wait to be married to this man! 

  Congratulations to everyone as well! "

  
  

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• MesmrEwe member

  

  November 2015

  All I can think is this is what's waiting to happen... 

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• climbingsingle member

  

  November 2015

  I'm going to tell my H tonight that I'm glad I ended up with him. How romantical. 

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• drunkenwitch member

  

  November 2015

  MNNEBride said:

  She posted this v on "Student Brides" so I'm guessing she's about 20 yrs old.

  
  

  "Hey guys. I'm in school to become a teacher but now I have to get another certificate to go somewhere else. My fiancé proposed to me on Oct. 7, 2015 and we have been dating for 4 years now. We knew each other for 3 years before we started dating, but I never really liked him until one night when I could swear that he drugged me. Haha Just kidding but I'm glad that I ended up with him. I couldn't imagine getting married to anyone else. He is also in school though, to become a lawyer so we are waiting until he is done to get married. I seriously can't wait to be married to this man! 

  Congratulations to everyone as well! "

  
  

  

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