Mentioning engagement in Christmas cards?

Re: Mentioning engagement in Christmas cards?

• CMGragain member

  

  November 2015

  You are fine sharing your news in holiday cards.  You can include the news in your Season's Greetings letter, if you do those (I do!), or you can just write a personal note on each card.  Sending printed wedding announcements is rude, so a Christmas card will spread the news without seeming gift grabby.
  

  

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  November 2015

  Thank you! This is perfect. 

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• MesmrEwe member

  

  November 2015

  CMGragain said:

  You are fine sharing your news in holiday cards.  You can include the news in your Season's Greetings letter, if you do those (I do!), or you can just write a personal note on each card.  Sending printed wedding announcements is rude, so a Christmas card will spread the news without seeming gift grabby.
  

  Yep!  I lump this into the Christmas Letter material ... and no matter how corny some people consider Christmas letters - I love them - especially the ones who talk about imperfect moments too... 
  

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• CMGragain member

  

  November 2015

  Etiquette for Christmas letters:  No bragging.  No whining.  No cutsie touches, like a letter supposedly written by the family dog.  No more than one side of one page of standard size paper.
  OK to talk about events like graduations, engagements, weddings, new babies in the family.
  

  

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• MesmrEwe member

  

  November 2015 edited November 2015

  CMGragain said:

  Etiquette for Christmas letters:  No bragging.  No whining.  No cutsie touches, like a letter supposedly written by the family dog.  No more than one side of one page of standard size paper.
  OK to talk about events like graduations, engagements, weddings, new babies in the family.
  

  LOL - my favorite Christmas letter over the years was actually 20+ pages long on average...  The gentleman who wrote it was a legislator "way back when" and only had one hand (lost the other in a farming accident) to type it out with...  Even HE joked about it being the "Great Bathroom Reader" but I only wish his family would combine the letters and publish it as a history book of the state... 

  
  

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• holyguacamole79 member

  

  November 2015

  My only comment would be that this shouldn't replace you telling them yourselves.  

  
  
  
  
  

  

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  November 2015

  There are a few relatives who would first hear the news from us in the Christmas cards only (other friends/family have been in person/on phone). Is this bad, etiquette-wise? They live across the country, so in person isn't possible, and we don't have an established relationship with them. We could track down their phone numbers but I wonder if that might be awkward, given that we've never spoken on the phone before? Sending season's greetings was my idea for a first step in building a relationship... 

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• holyguacamole79 member

  

  November 2015

  A&B567 said:

  There are a few relatives who would first hear the news from us in the Christmas cards only (other friends/family have been in person/on phone). Is this bad, etiquette-wise? They live across the country, so in person isn't possible, and we don't have an established relationship with them. We could track down their phone numbers but I wonder if that might be awkward, given that we've never spoken on the phone before? Sending season's greetings was my idea for a first step in building a relationship... 

  I think that depends on the relationship and the family dynamics.  I'm not really close to my mom's brothers.  I think she told them the news before they got the invite (yes, I invited them all mostly out of obligation).

  
  

  It's a judgement call (I actually thought about that more after I left my original comment).  

  
  
  
  
  

  

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• SP29 member

  

  November 2015

  A&B567 said:

  There are a few relatives who would first hear the news from us in the Christmas cards only (other friends/family have been in person/on phone). Is this bad, etiquette-wise? They live across the country, so in person isn't possible, and we don't have an established relationship with them. We could track down their phone numbers but I wonder if that might be awkward, given that we've never spoken on the phone before? Sending season's greetings was my idea for a first step in building a relationship... 

  I agree that this depends on your relationship with them. If these are people whom you would see in person at a family dinner, or talk to on the phone occasionally, I would not have your Christmas letter be the first time you are telling them you are engaged.

  
  

  However, if you have met these people once, and you haven't established other means of communication (which it sounds like), I think it would be fine to announce this in your Christmas letter. 

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  November 2015

  Thanks all for the advice! We don't yet have other established means of communication, but hopefully will build to that. In the Christmas card it goes!

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