So, the long and short of it is, we both come from giant families. For many reasons, budget included, we are having a tiny wedding with maybe 50 people. Problem: if we 'extend' the invites to include biologically related aunts/uncles for both of us, not even their kids--our cousins, plus parents (because obviously), and grandparents without even giving the non-married aunts/uncles a plus one for a significant other we are about 30 people over our cap.
It seems like the logical thing is to only invite 50 of these people. Which is sort of the plan HOWEVER some of those 50 (his mama) are blabbermouths (which I mean in the best way possible--she's hilarious and wonderful) and others, who probably would not make the list, are the sort to make a stink about not being invited. Add in the internet and a couple of large family gatherings where we'll see everyone...it's not like it'll be kept quiet that some family members aren't invited to the wedding. It's not that we don't like Aunt C, it's just that given the choice, Aunt R lives closer and is more likely to attend anyway.
Totally thought about having just parents and grandparents...but all of the work for 13 people feels silly. So that's out.
How do we do this without being super rude etc.!? I don't want to hurt anyone, but I have to send out invitations.
...help.