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Just wanted to share a wedding story.

Thought you lovely ladies on the etiquette board may enjoy this.

A dear friend of mine, Rebecca, got married in October. I was over the moon excited for her when she got engaged end of August, and offered my services to whatever she needed. In panic, she informed me she had decided to get married about a month and a half after the engagement and needed help in planning. No problem. Her wedding budget ? $1000. From start to finish. Now, I don't scoff at any amount for a wedding, but geez. Plan for the wedding you can afford. Rebecca wanted to get married in Frankenmuth (I know out of staters may not be familiar with that. Huge tourist area, very expensive.) so we worked together to get some details nailed down. Found an outdoor venue that wasn't crazy expensive (that she later informed me she never paid for. In fact, she told the company a different day for her wedding, and still had it there so they did not know...) and the reception would be at a park under a pavilion not too far away. It was mid 60's that day, and VERY overcast and windy, so it started off miserable.

The reception was that of a horror movie. I swear. She had a friend of hers cook on one of the park grills, with no foil, right on the dirty grates. And served one piece of chicken at a time. No drinks, no salads. Just your one piece of dirty chicken. There was no music, no table decorations, just the graffiti on the park picnic tables. To make matters even better, there were no bathrooms. I think FI and I stayed for about a half hour before nature called and I was starving and needed to use the bathroom.

As we were leaving, she then informed her guests (Quite literally made an announcement) that she appreciated everyone joining her on HER (not "their") special day, and that the next day they were flying to their all inclusive honeymoon to the Bahamas. 

Sorry for the long rant. Just had to share. 


Re: Just wanted to share a wedding story.

  • Thought you lovely ladies on the etiquette board may enjoy this.

    A dear friend of mine, Rebecca, got married in October. I was over the moon excited for her when she got engaged end of August, and offered my services to whatever she needed. In panic, she informed me she had decided to get married about a month and a half after the engagement and needed help in planning. No problem. Her wedding budget ? $1000. From start to finish. Now, I don't scoff at any amount for a wedding, but geez. Plan for the wedding you can afford. Rebecca wanted to get married in Frankenmuth (I know out of staters may not be familiar with that. Huge tourist area, very expensive.) so we worked together to get some details nailed down. Found an outdoor venue that wasn't crazy expensive (that she later informed me she never paid for. In fact, she told the company a different day for her wedding, and still had it there so they did not know...) and the reception would be at a park under a pavilion not too far away. It was mid 60's that day, and VERY overcast and windy, so it started off miserable.

    The reception was that of a horror movie. I swear. She had a friend of hers cook on one of the park grills, with no foil, right on the dirty grates. And served one piece of chicken at a time. No drinks, no salads. Just your one piece of dirty chicken. There was no music, no table decorations, just the graffiti on the park picnic tables. To make matters even better, there were no bathrooms. I think FI and I stayed for about a half hour before nature called and I was starving and needed to use the bathroom.

    As we were leaving, she then informed her guests (Quite literally made an announcement) that she appreciated everyone joining her on HER (not "their") special day, and that the next day they were flying to their all inclusive honeymoon to the Bahamas. 

    Sorry for the long rant. Just had to share. 

    Sigh.  Thanks for the story.  This is why I'm on TK.  I love the nightmare stories.  Sorry you had to deal with this though.
  • Look, if your dream is to have an amazing honeymoon, cool. Fine by me. But I'd rather you do a courthouse event and not have guests in order to be able to afford that than give people dirty effing chicken and then splurge on the dream honeymoon. 

    This was my exact thought.

  • No table decorations is no big.
    No music isn't a deal breaker (though, how hard is it to find a boom box CD player or a portable ipod speaker).

    But no drinks? Not even water?
    And dirty chicken and no bathrooms would be a deal breaker.
  • Agree with the above. There is a right way (a cheap, but lovely way) and a wrong way to have a wedding for $1000- your friend did it the wrong way.

    I would've left too after while. I have a bladder the size of a kiwi, that would just not fly! And I'm not shy about using a tree, but not in a dress and nice shoes! ;)
  • Has she never hosted anything in her life? I mean, take the wedding aspect of this, it could have been a barbecue. Is this how she would have thrown a barbecue?? I would never go back to any "party" she ever decides to throw. 
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  • I can't get over she basically "stole" her wedding venue. (There is a better word for it, I'm just blanking on it.)

    Also, I've got to laugh at the fact she had her wedding Frankenmuth and served crappy chicken. The place is known for having really good fried chicken!
  • What's with Frankenmuth brides?  There's a bride in on my FB groups that has booked everything but venue for a Frankenmuth wedding...umm what!?   I should just advise her to steal her location too!  I hope you at least went and got some real German Chicken and fudge after that shit show.

    Frankenmuth to those who aren't familiar is little Bavaria in rural Michigan.  They also have Bronners, the largest Christmas store in the world so they attract a lot of tourists between the two attractions.


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  • Ohhh we did. I grew up about five minutes from there, so I know some really good places to eat. It turned into a great afternoon for FI and myself, as I haven't been to Frankenmuth in a long time.


    But yeah. Our friendship really has this huge wedge in it now. You don't think something like a shitty wedding would kill a friendship, but hell yes it did.


  • Ohhh we did. I grew up about five minutes from there, so I know some really good places to eat. It turned into a great afternoon for FI and myself, as I haven't been to Frankenmuth in a long time.


    But yeah. Our friendship really has this huge wedge in it now. You don't think something like a shitty wedding would kill a friendship, but hell yes it did.

    I'd blame the shitty chicken.  
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  • Ohhh we did. I grew up about five minutes from there, so I know some really good places to eat. It turned into a great afternoon for FI and myself, as I haven't been to Frankenmuth in a long time.


    But yeah. Our friendship really has this huge wedge in it now. You don't think something like a shitty wedding would kill a friendship, but hell yes it did.

    It was the THEFT that did it!!!  "Theft of Services" is a real crime...  I call that a reasonable reason to break a friendship because it speaks to her character.  Heck, for the cost of that chicken alone, she could have ordered a party sub with sides from Subway, no excuse for the no bathrooms or drinks (even if only bottled water and juice boxes!)..

    My gosh though - there are SO many ways to stretch $1000 without losing out on one bit of the guest experience (and yes, serving a full catered meal with drinks and cake!)...  But - that full honeymoon was SO worth it!

  • Oh, I know. My wedding budget certainly isn't a fortune, but we are making it work. With a full service bar, and catered dinner. And the catering comes out to $8.5 a plate (I have some more expensive meats), so it absolutely could have been done.

    Could have gone to the dollar store even and got some snacks, tin foil for the grills, and tablecloths so her guests didn't have to read "FUCK THE WORLD!" or "PENIS" or stare at pot leaves on the tables.

    FI tells me every day "I just don't want our wedding to look like Rebeccas!" as we are getting married outside also. Poor guy.


  • This is a first. It's basically a dine and dash wedding. 

    Theft is a crime, for real. I don't get how they got away with that. 
  • No idea.


    It was reported though.


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