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double booked and annoyed!

kaos16kaos16 member
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My mom is throwing a sprinkle for my sister's third baby. . . . . . i'm already not thrilled about the idea, but I need to attend to prevent causing major family unrest.  (I know, i'm a weenie).  I just got an invitation to the bridal shower of a really good friend's daughter for the same day, an hour before, in a town about 30 minutes away.

Now i'm annoyed because I want to go to the bridal shower too!

I won't know anyone but one or two people at the shower, so maybe i'll go for an hour, hour and a half and deal with the bullshit i'll get for being late to the sprinkle.

I think I'm just annoyed that I am in this position because my mom, sister and the "everything has to be about her" mentality of some of my family members. . .  . .so this is really just a bit of a passive aggressive vent.  Grrrrr!
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  • ShesSoColdShesSoCold mod
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    scribe95 said:
    Honestly, just stand up and be an adult. Tell your mother you are going to your good friends' wedding shower (presumably a one-time event) instead of your sister's third child's shower. Get her a nice gift and be done with it. 
    This. The more you stop feeding into this crap, the less crap you will receive.
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  • lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    ShesSoCold said:
    scribe95 said:
    Honestly, just stand up and be an adult. Tell your mother you are going to your good friends' wedding shower (presumably a one-time event) instead of your sister's third child's shower. Get her a nice gift and be done with it. 
    This. The more you stop feeding into this crap, the less crap you will receive.
    ditto.








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  • holyguacamole79holyguacamole79 member
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    I agree with the others.

    However, I'm quadruple booked for Dec 5 and it's a bit of a bummer.  That evening is my company's holiday party, DH's company's holiday party, belated Thanksgiving with DH's family, and a surprise 60th birthday for a close family friend (yeah, she's 60, but the party will be AWESOME).

    Obviously, Thanksgiving takes priority.  But I'd much rather be at the birthday party.  Or DH's company holiday party ... it's at a really nice steakhouse.




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  • sarahuflsarahufl member
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    Send a gift and say you are sorry you can't be there, but you have a different obligation.

    You are an adult, you get to make decisions.
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  • kaos16kaos16 member
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    I know, I am being a total chicken shit about it, but for some stupid reason I can't stand up to them and just decline the sprinkle.
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  • kaos16kaos16 member
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    scribe95 said:
    kaos16 said:
    I know, I am being a total chicken shit about it, but for some stupid reason I can't stand up to them and just decline the sprinkle.
    I guess that is up to you. But given that I wouldn't come on here and whine about it. 
    That's why I warned in my OP that it was more of a passive aggressive vent
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  • STARMOON44STARMOON44 member
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    Being a grown up who makes her own choices totally rocks. Try it sometime! It's fun.
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  • MesmrEweMesmrEwe member
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    kaos16 said:
    I know, I am being a total chicken shit about it, but for some stupid reason I can't stand up to them and just decline the sprinkle.

    No need to stand up - just say you're going to a good friend's bridal shower and you'll be along after... and just "get stuck" there...  It's not like this is her first baby, but your friend only gets one bridal shower!  Then when things wrap up, stop by your sister's sprinkle with her gift, or drop it off ahead of time... 

    It will work out - enjoy the Bridal Shower!!!

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  • lembasloverlembaslover member
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    MesmrEwe said:
    kaos16 said:
    I know, I am being a total chicken shit about it, but for some stupid reason I can't stand up to them and just decline the sprinkle.

    No need to stand up - just say you're going to a good friend's bridal shower and you'll be along after... and just "get stuck" there...  It's not like this is her first baby, but your friend only gets one bridal shower!  Then when things wrap up, stop by your sister's sprinkle with her gift, or drop it off ahead of time... 

    It will work out - enjoy the Bridal Shower!!!

    This is what I'd do. "Oops lost track of time" I'll give you your gift when I see you at ______" Or if you end up not liking the bridal shower since you don't know that many people you have an excuse to bail after an hour or so. 

    Normally I agree that it's better to just stand up and be honest but I have a difficult family too and sometimes it's just easier to be running late or have something come up...
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  • hellohkbhellohkb mod
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    Meh, I understand why you wouldn't want to rock the boat with your family. I agree with @MesmrEwe and @marriedhamstermom. I'd go to the bridal shower and lose track of time ;)


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