HI all, I'm new here and have been reading for the last few days. Just engaged 6 days ago, so this is all quite new!
Anyway, I know I need to get my venue locked down ASAP since we're planning on Oct '16, so have been working on a guest list.
First, I'm 11 years younger than my Fiancee, so none of my friends have kids, but a bunch of his do. We both agree that we don't want his friends kids at out wedding because one group of 3 siblings are just menaces (have thrown sawdust in my face, tried to nail Fiancee's hand with a nail gun, super glue in my drink...) and another has 5 kids under 4, and that's a lot of crying...
Fiancee and I have talked about this (pre-engagement and post) that we want an Adult-only wedding. But my parents who are very generously paying for it, want my cousins' kids to come. They're all 8+ and sweet kids. I don't mind, Finacee doesn't mind, but pointed out he still didn't want his friends' kids there. We're getting married in NYC (where I grew up) but all of Fiancee's friends are in Texas where we live now, so odds that they would bring kids anyway are slim, but I know you can't plan on anyone *not* coming.
So is it ok to invite adults only and kids who are family?
Second. I ride horses and have boarded my horses at one barn for 7 years ( a long time in the horsey world!). The barn owner (BO) was nice to me for the first 6 or so years, but has been pretty horrible to me this past year. The barn manager (BM) who's been there only 2 years is just wonderful. He is a mentor to me and is just a great guy, a true 'cowboy'. Now, if I invite BM (whom has never been to NYC) and he could come he'd need to ask BO for time off. I would feel bad not inviting BM, but then I would need to invite BO.
So do I invite both? Neither?
I'm trying to ruffle as few feathers as possible! Thanks
(Also, if anyone know how I can change my screen name, that'd be sweet!)