Another Thank You Note Question

Re: Another Thank You Note Question

• Jen4948 member

  

  November 2015 edited November 2015

  I would send a thank you note to both persons at the address of the friend who was invited. 

  Modified for: But only if they gave you a gift.  If not, a thank you note is unnecessary.

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• edenisle member

  

  November 2015

  Thank you!  That sounds easy enough.  I just don't want to not properly thank someone.
  

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  November 2015

  edenisle said:

  I saw below someone had posted a question about writing a thank you note for a guest bringing a friend who was not their significant other, and the answer was to go by the signature on the card they gave. 
  
  But what if they didn't give a card or anything?  My husband's friend wanted to bring a friend with him to the wedding because he didn't want to come alone, which was no big deal.  However, the friend doesn't even live in the same state as the plus-one, so I'm wondering how to go about the thank you card.  A little background, we had a wedding that was destination for pretty much everyone except for us (bc we just moved her a year ago), so we wanted to send thank you notes to everyone for doing us the honor of coming. 
  
  I'm guessing I should try to find the address of the plus-one friend to send a thank you note there as well?
  

  For what are you thanking them?  You write notes to thank people for gifts.  If there was no card or, "here's a blender from Mark and his buddy, Bruce" note on the gift, you don't need to write a TY note.  They don't get a TY note for attending.  The reception is the Thank You for attending your ceremony and witnessing your union.

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• STARMOON44 member

  

  November 2015

  You don't send a thank you to someone who didn't send a gift. Because it can read as a passive aggressive why no gift note- especially for someone you don't even know.

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• edenisle member

  

  November 2015 edited November 2015

  @STARMOON44 @adk19 Wow, I didn't even think of that... We were under the impression (with some influence from our parents) that it was a nice thing to do since everyone came from all over. 
  
  Thanks for telling me that.  I definitely don't want people to think we're fishing for a gift or something!  We were just trying to be polite.
  

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