Hi guys. So me and my fiance are figuring out what the venue should be. Our wedding is in 17 months (early start!). And after getting ideas from family we have a big etiquette problem that I don't know how to proceed with at all. But first some background.
I have these family friends that I practically grew up with. My dad worked with the father of the family before he met my mom, he lived at their house for a few years and moved back to NYC where he got married, they had me, blah blah. He stayed working for him by traveling every week and would often take me along and eventually my brother as well when he was born. Anyway we were friends with their kids and had such a great time whenever we went there. Years later when I was 12-ish my dad and his "boss" had issues and ended their business and friendship. A few years ago they made up and we reunited with this family and occasionally went to visit again. Basically this is a family we are close with but have been distant for a few years until recently.
Now for the question. This family lives in a beautiful estate. Right next to a river, forests all around them. Basically a perfect picturesque location. Being a poor kid from Queens this place always amazed me. A cousin recently recommended that I ask to use the place as a venue (The outdoor areas). I feel like this is a HUGE thing to ask. They have apparently had charity events there in the past, but jeeze, I would think it would be such a burden. Then again I don't know much about space rental and what kind of work needs to be done to prepare. I know I will select caterers that will take away any work the family would do. I don't want them to do any kind of work otherwise I would use a different venue. They'll be guests to our wedding and I want to treat them as such.
Also if we used their property as a venue the invitation would be pretty funny "Ceremony and Reception at your house". Anyway is this not as rude as I'm assuming? Is this ok to ask? If it's ok to ask, how to I even begin to ask?