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JediElizabeth
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Holiday Rant
So this is 100% ranting...it's over, I bean dipped already, but it still makes me so mad.
Thanksgiving was at my sister's this year. FI stepped out for a while to drive my mom home, because he's the sweetest DD, and she wanted to go home early.
While he was out, my sister started asking me questions about our future: where we would buy a house, if we would have kids, etc. Some of those questions are not 100% answered (example: we will adopt unless I decide I can handle pregnancy, which I have a phobia of- something we've discussed already), so I told her we'd figure that out in the next 3-5 years. Because that's all she needs to know.
Her response: "Oh, do you think you'll be with him in 5 years?"
Ummm, yeah. I've been with FI for 4+ (living together for 3+), and plan to be with him for the rest of my life. 5 years seems like a pretty short time in comparison. Also, WTF?
I told her as much, then changed the subject. But seriously, who says something like that?
What about all of you? Any similarly terrible holiday stories from this thanksgiving?
Thanksgiving was at my sister's this year. FI stepped out for a while to drive my mom home, because he's the sweetest DD, and she wanted to go home early.
While he was out, my sister started asking me questions about our future: where we would buy a house, if we would have kids, etc. Some of those questions are not 100% answered (example: we will adopt unless I decide I can handle pregnancy, which I have a phobia of- something we've discussed already), so I told her we'd figure that out in the next 3-5 years. Because that's all she needs to know.
Her response: "Oh, do you think you'll be with him in 5 years?"
Ummm, yeah. I've been with FI for 4+ (living together for 3+), and plan to be with him for the rest of my life. 5 years seems like a pretty short time in comparison. Also, WTF?
I told her as much, then changed the subject. But seriously, who says something like that?
What about all of you? Any similarly terrible holiday stories from this thanksgiving?
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Re: Holiday Rant
5, 10, 50 years, I'll take 100 if I can get it with my husband. Hopefully your sister just can't handle her drink and was trying to make a joke that didn't come off well.
So not okay! I don't understand people. Why would anyone think that is funny? Ugh.
Can we just rant about our holidays on this thread? My FMIL called Tuesday morning to cancel coming to dinner at our house because she didn't want to drive. (Okay, whatever. But this is the second holiday she's tried to change the plans at the last minute and make everyone come to her house. Issue is, she has no table and we end up having to eat on the floor. Wouldn't be a huge issue except she has four dogs who are not trained who are all over you and your food.)
Anyway, she cancels, then asks us to bring her a turkey. So against my wishes, FI does. THEN she starts calling and bitching asking us what she's supposed to do. Is she supposed to clean and cook a turkey? WTF is wrong with us that we won't come do it for her? (We had other guests coming to our house.) I don't do emotional blackmail/manipulation well, so she's already learned not to start this crap with me. I told her to come over or not, she's the one causing issues, and I'm done playing her games.
Same(twin) sister came over tonight for my friendsgiving. She mentioned she doesn't believe in marriage.
I said FI were getting married, and it would be a wonderful party. (Jovially...the wedding will be, but again, I hope the marriage will last a lifetime. Obviously.)
She said, "And your divorce will be even more fun!"
Fuck that.
ETA: Lesson learned about bringing up the fact that FI & I are getting married to my sister. Too bad she'll probably bring it up on her own to say things like that.
She left soon after. I have no idea if/when we'll talk about it.
When my sister called my uncle to tell him that she was pregnant, his wife (I refuse to use the title "aunt") made this comment:
Sister: "guess what"
Reply: "You're getting a divorce?"
(They had been married for 6 months at that point).
Great Thanksgiving - 2003, on the Grand Princess cruise ship. They did 100% of the cooking and serving and cleaning up. We were with both of our adult kids. Wow, was I ever thankful that year!
Worst Thanksgiving conversation, ever in 1973 - "Poor CMGragain! All the cousins are married, but she can't keep a boyfriend. So sad. She's going to be graduating college, but no ring, yet." (I was the ONLY female cousin who had attended college! No one worried about my unmarried male cousins!)
PS, it must be something in the (internet) water. FI and I had a seriously underwhelming Thanksgiving here too.
Was she drunk at this event too?
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I don't actually think she was drunk...she stopped by for like 10 minutes on her way home from another party, but I'm pretty sure she was the designated driver.
ETA - sorry for just assuming you celebrate Christmas! We're hosting 18 people so I'm knee deep and have severe tunnel vision.
ETA - sorry for just assuming you celebrate Christmas! We're hosting 18 people so I'm knee deep and have severe tunnel vision.
No problem! I'm not a believer, and my FI's Jewish, but my family is Catholic, so usually we'd celebrate.
No one's doing a big meal this year, so FI & I are going to see my family Christmas Eve, then dinner with friends on Christmas Day. Hopefully my sis will see everyone Christmas Day. It just worked out that way, but I glad to get some more time to get perspective.
She just texted about an hour ago in our group text to say that 6 was really late because my niece (adorable, beautiful baby that I love) goes to bed at 7 and takes a bath first.
We've been talking all week about our plans. She's known all week I intend to finish Christmas shopping and go grocery shopping before my parents come over. Never once did she mention that Baby C is on a schedule and we may need to alter our plans. So now I can host earlier and just scramble during the day or keep my plans and be accused of "ruining Christmas" because she's the golden child and everything in my dads world revolves around her.
She says I should have asked her when our parents could come over so I knew it was a good time! Thank god for happy hour with my best friend in a couple hours.